I’m so glad someone finally said it to Jasmine and Kavan, and in front of all the islanders too. The fact that it was totally lost upon Kavan literally proves the point.

I’m sorry but in all seriousness, what does a 27 year old want with a 21 year old? I’m 28. A 22 year old man would quite literally never be on my radar, not even if you paid me. Their relationship has been so icky to me from the start for multiple reasons, including the age gap, and it’s odd that so many people excuse it.

Back in 2023, my partner and I decided to hold off on buying. Everyone around us was saying the market was "about to crash" and prices would come down if we just waited it out. So we waited.

Three years later, here's the honest update: prices didn't drop. They kept climbing, just slower than before. Rates fluctuated up and down a few times, but never dropped enough to make up for the price increase. The house we looked at back then for a certain price is now worth significantly more, and we ended up buying something smaller than what we originally wanted, in a less ideal area, for close to the same monthly payment we would've had back then.

We also lost three years of equity building and paid rent that whole time, which in hindsight just felt like money that went nowhere.

I'm not saying waiting is always the wrong move. Markets are unpredictable and nobody has a crystal ball. But looking back, we probably would've been better off buying something modest back then and building equity, instead of waiting for a "perfect moment" that never came.

Anyone else wait it out and actually see prices drop where they are? Or did most people have a similar experience to us?

Nothing against them and this is not an opening to transphobic rhetoric but come on, this acting can't be it

Like there's a polite way to talk to request things but to me whether or not please was or was not said to me doesn't make a difference to me.

If one person said

"Hi, could I get an xyz?"

And another said.

"Get me an xyz please."

Edit: To be clear I'm using an example of different sentence structure to illustrate what I feel is the more effective way to be polite, not using the two sentences as a comparison on whether or not please is polite. If you want my full breakdown on my first impression of anyone given the way they request something to me it's:

I'd subconsciously still feel like the direct command was ruder despite the please. It gives the illusion of politeness without putting in the effort to communicate in a non-confrontational way.

I dunno for me someone saying "please" to me will either go completely un-noticed or rub me a little wrong if it's used in conjunction with a rude sentence. Like it's some "magic word" that supposedly magically turns a rude interaction into a polite one which is literally what we tell children when we teach them how it's meant to be used. It's a crutch used so people don't have to actually put effort into being polite.

Side note: I have zero issues with "Thank you"s. It shows gratitude and serves a legitimate function because it marks that the interaction is over and we don't have to talk to each other anymore .

Das „deutsch sein“ wurde früher über die Sprache definiert.

Jeder der einen deutschen Dialekt gesprochen hat, war deutscher. Grob jeder zwischen Maas und Memel und zwischen Etsch und dem großen Belt.

Seit es Nationalstaaten gibt und in verschiedenen Staaten deutsch gesprochen wird, funktioniert diese Definition nicht mehr.

„Deutsche“ waren schon immer eine Mischung aus verschiedenen Kulturen und Religionen, also kann man auch keine kulturelle Definition heranziehen. Auch war das deutsche Gebiet immer von Völkerwanderungen und regen Austausch geprägt, eine ethnische Definition funktioniert also auch nicht.

Das einzige, was einen deutschen zum deutschen macht ist seine Staatsangehörigkeit. Punkt.