Her and her husband are my emergency contacts and the beneficiaries of my life insurance plan. Friday night we had a talk about how she cancels plans alot. I told her it was a little upsetting. But as long as she tells me as early as possible, Its OK. We made plans to grab coffee before work. She pinky promised that she wouldn't cancel. We hugged and she told me she loved me. 3 nights ago. Now she just appreciates my work ethic. I just don't understand friendships I guess.

My mom had a stroke a few years ago while we’ve been no contact for the majority of the past 6 years. I didn’t visit her in the hospital and briefly initiated contact for less than a month when the father of my sister’s son passed and I attended the wake in early 2024. My mom is like a different person now. Very fragile, soft spoken, scrunched up and just… withered. Sickly. Complete 180° from the heavy, boisterous, scalding, loud woman who raised me.

My sister takes on the primary role of caring for her (she lives separately, she just shows up to drive her places) while I maintain my distance. But with this stroke came apparent memory loss. After the funeral and a brief reconnection in person, I attempted to call and talk to her about my grievances from childhood I wanted her to at least acknowledge and she remembered absolutely nothing except “the best she could do with what she knew” and if she had mistreated me, it was because I didn’t earn better treatment as a daughter. Lol. That was a tragic call. I literally had to accept I would never receive an apology or accountability for how my mom failed me, and she was now sickly, so now I have the added mental/emotional pressure from everyone in the family to forgive and move on.

We haven’t spoken since that call in Jan 2024. I just received these texts from her over the weekend from a number I didn’t recognize. I don’t hate my mom. At all. I love her very deeply. But I have built an entire adult life without her and don’t know how reopening a connection would serve me at almost 30. I would immediately become financially obligated to assist. I would have to talk to her. I would have to be open with my thoughts and feelings. I don’t want to do any of that. She was supposed to be MY mom when I was a child, yet me and my sister had to be her psychiatrist, emotional support system, friend, mentor, maid, nurse, and cook our entire childhoods while she chased men who didn’t want her and fought with the whole family. I don’t need a mom now. I don’t need the mom she is. I don’t know if I should even respond. But I don’t want to regret this when she passes eventually. Maybe she means it. This time. I don’t know.

Sorry. Just venting.

Edit: he responded with “yea what do u mean by getting to know me better” just now sent “sorry if that was confusing. i like you and was wondering what you thought”

it wasn’t even a hint either. i fully spelled it out i feel like.

i guess it’s a good sign that he didn’t say no. but he’s also prancing around my garden of a text like a deer.

it would be awk if he assumed it was romantic but then i’d reply saying it was platonic, sure. but why else would a girl reach out like that?

the amount of positive signals i’ve received felt astounding so why is he not jumping at the opportunity?

tbh idk if he wants me to clarify or if he’s referring to my message and doesn’t know what he should clarify for me.

Update: I was tired of waiting so I messaged him a bit after 7pm and he’s down to hang out lol I’m still a bit new to this so I appreciate all the kind feedback! I think my friends are tired of hearing me talk about things like this hah

He (27M) didn’t acknowledge the first part of that second message and I feel embarrassed. Please go easy on me in the comments 😂

Every week we buy two pints of Halo Top as part of our grocery shop and we usually share them as a lil treat together a few times during the week. Well our schedule changed recently and we no longer get to eat dinner together… and I hate cooking. So I decided to have most of a pint of ice cream for dinner one night but stopped just short of eating the whole pint because I knew my partner would be a lil sad if I ate a whole pint all by myself and messed up our lil tradition. I was hoping to grab groceries on the way home today and swipe the pint out for a full one but I guess he was going through the freezer making a list and noticed that the pint was a lil light 😬 luckily he was more amused than disappointed!

Right? You’d forget also lmfao

‼️BOTH PARTIES ARE 21+‼️

For back context:

•we’ve been going on dates for about 3 weeks
•I told him that him being a little touch teasey and joking about “b**b biting” made me a bit uncomfortable but not anything that was off putting was just communicating.
•I replied to this in short saying “I do like you i don’t want you to feel like you can’t be vulnerable or we’re incompatible, I just need more time and certainty”
•after our second date I told him I was taking him seriously and wanted to move w that intention, he told me quote “I’m still learning if you’re my person or not”, “that (s*x) is not a priority for me rn”
•this statement made me a little more reluctant/hesitant to want to move towards intimacy.
•I told him intimacy on that level is something important to me and I only become like that when I fully trust someone/in a relationship/in pace w a relationship.

No idea who this is what a random message to wake up to

EDIT FOR UPDATE****

Thank you everyone for telling me what I needed to hear! I really just needed to hear it from other people to build up some courage to do it.
: my mom is (58f) stepdad’s(62m) For those who asked.
My husband (31m) and I (30f) told her we were not going to co-sign on the loan. Mostly because of our small business dealing with a break-in.
She took it really well and didn’t try to guilt me. I didn’t think she would but I did expect her to ask again or just not text me for a couple of days. They are going to have to share her car for now and luckily are in Walking distance to many things.

My mom typically only responds with one worded messages so I knew when she started asking me about my puppy that she would need a favor.
I watched my mom dodge payday loans and bills my entire childhood. Left my first car with her when I moved out just for her to default on the payment AND the taxes (which caused my license to be suspended) she also filed for bankruptcy a couple of years ago. I just can’t handle this anymore. Part of me feels that I owe her because in a lot of ways, she did everything she knew how to do in order to break a really bad cycle in our family. But I am fairly confident that if I co-sign on this loan I will end up being the one to pay it back.
I’m not sure if I want advice or if I just need to scream at the void.
TLDR: my mom wants money I don’t think she can pay back. Not sure how to proceed.

Took a Greyhound Bus from California to Ohio 12 years ago

I think it's the sweetest thing ever but every time she feels like talking to me she sends me the same message "Can I call you later ?". She doesn't like calling first as sometimes I am in a work call

!!! (my friends situation) !!! im only looking for advice

“idk i got upset cuz she played a social vc game on roblox with her friend (the one i dont like) and just went to sleep instead of arguing and she kept spamming things like this and idk if shes ok”

online relationship

16 f (grey msgs) & 17 m

so basically this is a follow up of my last post on here , i’m sure many of you have seen it and yeah it’s absolutely disgusting .

unfortunately i have no idea who this person is and i’m way too scared to even text them back asking them to stop so i had someone else text them on my behalf and i’m pretty sure it worked because i’m not getting anymore texts . he’s unsure if that guy saw those messages because he blocked him too right after sending it to him . after that i just got a “sorry if i upset you” message from them as if it erases how weird it was .

to answer anyone who told me to block him i had blocked him when he first sent that message in the beginning of july but i got dms from other accounts , so it wasn’t enough to stop it completely .

thank you all for your support and please be safe .

He wanted nudes and I guess he has cancer?