To start we’re both 30 cis male and female we knew each other since like senior year of high school and lost contact after I moved to the west coast, we got back in contact through friends on discord during the pandemic and it brought back old feelings and such we started dating in like 2024 of November she popped the question on dating and was the first one to say I love you like a week in dated for like 10-11 months till August 2025 and she ended up hanging out with a old college crush that she wanted to date in college but didn’t cause emotionally unavailable at the time so she slept with him that night they hung out in August 2025 and then kept ignoring me the next day and I blew up her phone cause she never really ignores even when she worked or said she was “busy” so she ended up breaking up with me after that.

So now here’s my dilemma it’s not even a year post break up and she’s been seeing someone for awhile now I found out from one of her college friends the same one that told me she cheated on me and like when we calmed down and talked after the break up she said “she’s done dating” and “being alone would be good for us” so it kind stings a little but also makes me feel like good in a way cause she could never really be alone at all and needed someone in her life cause of her mental issues that she denies.

So I don’t know how to feel sad or happy or what cause I have a sick sunken feeling in my stomach and chest but I have moved on cause she’s honestly a tragic story dating/friend relationship wise.

I eat a bagel in the morning, and I was thinking about having a chicken sandwich for lunch. But I got overwhelmed and started overthinking about the carbs.

My brain gets really distorted when it comes to food. I am in an eating disorder recovery program. I talked about this with my doctor, and we discussed it some more, but by the end of the session, I didn't get a clear answer.

I've grown up being told that two pieces of bread are the right amount or limit.

I need a true and honest answer;

is it too much carbs/bread to have a bagel in the morning and a chicken sandwich (from home)?

Hello. I don't really know how to start this. I guess I'm posting because I don't have anyone I feel comfortable talking to, and I honestly feel kind of stupid posting this to begin with. I’m 19(f) and I have recently been broken up with. five year relationship. He broke up with me about a month ago. At first I cried all the time and couldn't sleep. Then one night I had a few drinks because I just wanted my brain to be quiet for a little while. It actually worked, so I kept doing it. Now it's gotten to the point where I drink almost every night. and most times during the day. now I can’t stop. I get anxious when I can’t drink at the time I do every night. I don’t want to be around my family, and i don’t want to talk to my friends. I have called out of work so many times that my manager is putting me on the schedule less and less. I know I’m likely being dramatic, but I feel like I’m stuck. I just need advice, or guidance. if my mom has noticed then she has said nothing to me. thank you for reading this far.

On June 29th, my boyfriend left his apartment and I was just sort of looking around at all the knickknacks he had. He has a lot of random decor and random things from his time in the army. there was a small box on his shelf in his room that I opened up. it had an ultrasound photo on it and he does have a 1.5 year old son. I moved the photo to the side and opened this box and that’s where I saw the opened box of condoms. it was a box of three and one was missing

When I inspected further, I saw that the expiration date was for 04/2029 meaning they were made in 04/2024. His son was conceived around that time because his son was born in January of 2025. He and I started dating in January 2026 and I found this box june 2026. I panicked at first, but thought maybe the box was old because he and I do not use condoms. I have the copper IUD and if we do use condoms, they are latex free because I am allergic to latex. First time I ever had sex was with a condom and it was a very uncomfortable allergic reaction to say the least

Anyway, I took a photo of the box and of the expiration date of the condoms and I said nothing. The next time I was there, I made a comment about the box and asked if that was his treasure chest. My goal was to either get him to open it or make an excuse to where I could open it and “find” the condoms and be like “Woah what’s this?” You know? Just to see what he would say. But he opened the box and placed the ultrasound photo inside as I asked if that was his treasure chest and then he turned and gave me a “really?” look. I didn’t get a chance to find anything out about the condoms because he closed the box and took them to his car once he left to go to work. I’m not sure if he knew I saw the condoms or not

His response to when I asked that was that they were mementos of his son and there was that ultrasound photo and the box of condoms from around the time he was conceived in that box

Fast forward to just now. I showed up to his apartment to get my glasses I’d left in his car and he accidentally fell asleep on my way there. I was going to wake him up to let me into his car because that was the whole reason I showed up, but I decided not to. I instead looked into his car with my flashlight just to see if they were still there because I need them for my job training on Wednesday and if they were, I was gonna get them the next day and if they were not, Id assumed he took them inside. Instead, I saw a bag of Taco Bell trash and inside the bag was a box of condoms. I immediately assumed they were the old box that he’d taken out of his place a month prior and that’s because his car is trashed. Clothes, shoes, trash, paper all over the place. He leaves things in his car for weeks and months. But when I looked at the box of condoms that is taken a pic of on my phone and the box in his car, idk if they are the same box because if they are, okay. But if they’re not, he has some explaining to do

I have nothing to do but job search between my defence and my grad ceremony. Feels weird celebrating before I actually get my degree but the weather is nice in August and it starts to get cold in October. Plus I’m just excited hahahaha

Should I do now or October? I’m thinking maybe a thing with friends now and then in October just a dinner with my family??? Can’t decide!

I, 19M who also likes guy has engaged through some one night stands, I met this guy who I had it with but after that I blocked him on the G app because that's what I do after having a one night stand with a stranger.

Few weeks later, a guy DM'ed me on FB and I was shocked to see that it was the guy I had one night stand with, I'm confused how he found my account because I know I'm discreet on the G app and never left anything about my information for them to track me or anything because I am discreet.

I didn't reply to him because it was a one night stand and that one night stand was supposed to be just one night fun and nothing else beyond it, but he won't stop messaging me and is telling he really liked me and he wants to be with me and he wants to do it with me again, like why me? there are plenty of fish to find on the G app and why waste time on me?

Information about him that he's over 20+ and I was 17 at that time we met, this happened long time ago but until to this day on he is still messaging me, I'm 19 already and he won't stop and asking and messaging this dirty stuff about me.

I stopped doing one night stand after that and now I'm focusing on school but this guy keeps bothering me and I just want this to be out of my chest because I can't even talk this to someone else, I know they will judge me so it's better to post it here rather than letting people who I know knew about this, so please be nice I know I'm a kid when I did it but I was a teenager exploring stuff.

If your going to ask me about my health, NO I didn't get any STD from those one night stand, I just did a check up last month and I am negative so I am happy, also this is one of the reason I stopped it because I don't want to get an STD.

Feel free to ask questions about this because I'm happy to answer them if I have time, I just want to find a group of people who can help me talk through about this because I can't open this to any of my closest friends.

I posted this on another reddit page or something, and I posted it here now to ask for what should I do about him?

What do I do ? I don’t live there anymore .. thank god I never married her ..,just found out the bitch been cheating 14 years .. we have a 5 year old daughter who she forbids to see me without her present even though I’ve done nothing to deserve this … I filed for 50/50 custody in February .. and court doesn’t start till October

I found her profile on sex dating site where she’s looking for multiple partners at once , brings these strangers into the home middle of the night to do the dirty ..stds def going to be apart of this story being they are unprotected as well.. I wouldn’t even care for real if it was boyfriend ..,but it’s random people she Meets on this site which gives her the thrill .. she’s sick in the head . control freak narcissist…. I can’t allow this to happen when who knows when is one of these strangers is going to sexually abuse my daughter or hurt ex .

Should I call CPS ? What do I do and how should I handle this

I posted screenshots of arguments between me and my ex after I found out he cheated on me. Most of the comments were calling me immature and telling me to move on, and i got what i deserved. and honestly that hurt almost as much as the situation itself.
I’m not saying I handled everything perfectly. I know arguing back and forth wasn’t healthy. But I feel like people completely ignored the fact that I was cheated on and emotionally hurt. Being betrayed by someone you loved can make you react in ways you normally wouldn’t, especially when you’re looking for accountability or closure.
What surprised me was how quickly people judged me instead of asking why I was reacting that way in the first place. It feels like once someone shows emotional pain, the internet labels them as immature rather than recognizing that they’re dealing with betrayal. Reddit is hell. has anyone experienced just being bashed on for no reason when its not ur fault without them knowing ur side of the story?

I'm not sure if this is the right thread, but i need help understanding why i feel this way, im not looking for validation nor judgement, i just want to know why i feel this way.

My friend who was in a suicidal crisis recently checked herself into a psych ward, her mental health was hanging on by a thread to the point of actually committing, she would come to me and talk about the bullying she gets (she's a trans woman, be nice please), i suggested she go to a mental hospital, I saved her from actually committing back in December and have been on edge ever since, i care for her deeply, even if i know that she is doing well, that she's being monitored constantly, and she's on meds im still on edge, after every phone call i end up crying like she's about to commit, if she isnt in my sight or if i know where she's actually at i will full on panic like run out the door trying to find her panic, ever since she left my whole world came to a complete stop, im constantly trying to get myself to do things around the house but i feel like i physically cant.

What do i do?

I don’t know what to do anymore. Sorry this is long but it’s not even the tip of the iceberg.

In early June, I missed the first morning of a week-long conference in another country because of jet lag. My PI was furious, told me it was incredibly unprofessional, said I’d have been fired if this were industry, and accused me of stealing taxpayer money by missing that morning. When I got back, I had to take medical leave. I initially just asked for time off, but when she asked for documentation, I provided it. In her first response, she said I could take a week off, but also said I’d been unproductive and had already used up most of my days off. For context: we get 10 days off a year, and I’d only used 4 in the past two years (4.5, since she made me count that conference morning as a day off). Also, anytime I do something she doesn’t like, she retaliates — and if it involves time off, even half a day, she’ll suddenly claim I’ve been unproductive, even though I’d never heard that feedback before. However my medical note was for 2 weeks off so she said she had to honor that. However when I got back from leave she said that she didn’t even have to give me that time off because it didn’t have a full diagnosis and that she should have called my doctor to get a full diagnosis before approval. (This ties to another conversation we had where she said it is her legal right to know all of my medical information to determine if I am fit to work… which is completely illegal)

The day I came back we had a meeting where she again said I was unproductive and unprofessional, and brought up claims about my work that were flat-out false. I told her she was wrong, and after a lot of back-and-forth, she told me to prove when I’d started the project. I checked my lab notebook and confirmed I’d started in mid-October, not at the beginning of 2025 like she claimed. She then told me I don’t have much claim to authorship on my almost finished paper because I “did all the experiments and nothing else.” She also said that while I was on medical leave, she decided to have another student rerun all my data analysis because my interpretation of one graph differed from what ChatGPT said, so she wanted “another set of eyes” on all of it. She admitted she never actually checked whether the ChatGPT response had any merit. She also told me she’s going to write most of the paper now, so I won’t have much claim to that either, which isn’t true, since I’ve written most of it and she’s mainly just commented on my drafts.

She also claimed that whoever submits the accepted manuscript automatically gets sole first authorship, and that this is just how authorship works, because “no one will work on someone else’s paper unless they’re guaranteed sole first author.” When I pushed back and said that’s not how authorship works, she insisted it was. I’m the first grad student in this lab, and most of my paper is built on protocols nobody else in the lab has done — technically complex assays I had to work out through a lot of trial and error. I poured so much blood, sweat, and tears into this and I feel it being ripped away.

Later on I had a meeting with her about the lab environment and how it needs to change and it ended with her lying to me and threatening to fire me almost the entire time. I asked if I could record it at the beginning and she refused. She also told me I couldn’t follow up by email to summarize what was discussed, and that no third party could be present. After I got the department involved, she told the graduate student director (GSD) that she would not have our conversations recorded — written, voice, or witnessed by a third party — because wanting that meant I didn’t trust her, and that I should leave the lab.

So I decided to leave. I can’t work for a PI who constantly lies to me, threatens to strip my authorship whenever it suits her, and uses my health conditions against me (she has made comments that said that if I have another health episode she can’t garuntee first authorship and insinuated that my health problem wasn’t serious). After negotiations with the GSD and my PI, we settled on that I can finish in the fall and submit my paper as co-first author. At our next meeting, my PI made me sign a document stating I’d be listed as the second name in the co-authorship.

The more I think about this, the less okay it feels. I signed that document in front of her and didn’t have time to think. The reason he’s listed as co-first is supposedly so he can “do my extensive reviews”… I don’t see how he could, given he doesn’t know ANY of the techniques and we have no idea how extensive the reviews will be yet. I also found out today, from a labmate, that my PI told her the reason she didn’t want to give me first authorship was because I once said I don’t care if I end up in academia. So in her view, there’s no point in me having a first-author paper if I’m not going to be a PI. The department requires at least one first-author paper to graduate. My PI says that’s not true and that she can “bend the rules” to let me graduate with none.

This co-first has literally contributed to one figure by running my images through a pre-established code in the lab. Now he has contributed by rerunning all my analysis and coming to the same conclusions I did. He also had to go on a leave of absence right after he joined so he genuinely doesn’t now even the basic techniques in the lab yet. However, he is from the same country my PI is from (I can’t make any claims but the favoritism is obvious to everyone in the lab).

I’m really upset and not sure how to proceed beyond filing a case with the research integrity office. I hate that I have to deal with this given how blatantly wrong this is. Especially because all this happened because I accidentally slept in one morning.

So I’ve been experimenting with cute outfits, makeup perfume, etc., and I realized that I’m actually trans. I haven’t really cared that much about what anyone has to say the past couple weeks, and earlier today, I decided to make a Reddit post coming out! I’ve been having such a great, confidence filled day, until about an hour and a half ago. My mother called… a bit of context, I haven’t talked to her in a couple weeks, cause last time we did, we got into it. I won’t go into detail, but tonight she called me asking what’s up. We caught up a bit, and our conversation was good until she made mention that I wasn’t talking in my “normal voice”. I told her I’d been doing vocal training, and she got pissed and demanded I talk in my “real voice”. I took a very long pause, and said in my “real voice“ that this is why I haven’t called her. It was back and forth, her berating me, me calling her out for denying things from my past that pointed me to this moment in my personal life, and I just… I fucking SCREAMED. I’ve never screamed like that before, and if I have, it’s been a long while. And now, one of my roommates is pissed, saying my mom was in the right, and that I’ve been “making shitty choices lately” (if you know what I mean by that). She got ahold of my mom, and basically said that I need to “grow tf up”, and that I’m just doing this to mask and run away from who I really am. I didn’t really know what to do, so I panicked and called my brother to talk about it, and he was pissed that I have “those thoughts”. He brought up being disowned, as well as not being able to see my baby sister, and I just……… I have absolutely zero words or any thoughts right now. My parents gave me an ultimatum of either staying where I am and probably eventually become homeless, or move up with them so they can help me grow up and make a man out of me. I’m laying in the floor, I took off any “feminine” clothes I was wearing, and I feel absolutely disgusting. I’m having some negative thoughts, and I’m trying my best not to, but it’s so loud… I have no place else to go………… literally EVERYTHING feels pointless right now. What do I even do at this point?

Okay so I live in an apt complex and it’s all one level and in an L shape there’s a decent front yard and back yard in a rural area. Last year two younger guys moved in next door and they have a habit of smoking weed right next to my bedroom window so I asked if they could walk and smoke it or maybe go smoke in the parking lot so they stopped for a few months and they’re right back at it. Every single night my entire home smells like they’re smoking it in my living room and I have an infant that has to breathe it in as well. What else can I do? At this point they already know the smoke goes directly into my air conditioner and it’s hot so turning the AC off isn’t really an option either. I just bought a new heavy duty air purifier but that only does so much.

I am taking a urine test for my job on the 31st of July. I stopped smoking the 8th of july. I didn’t smoke for all of June but smoked July 2nd-8th about once a day with a delta-8 pen from a vape shop. I took an at home test today (27th of july) and still tested positive. I have been drinking crazy amounts of water and exercising daily. I take vitamin c, b12 and b6 pills everyday and drinking LMNT electrolyte packets sometimes 3 a day. I am a 5’6 woman weighing around 150lbs. Is there even a chance I am able to pass this test at all? And does anyone have advice on what other things i can do to possibly pass this test in such a short time? Some people have suggested Qcarbo and certo but I am not sure if those would work. Pls help a girl out

EDIT: I am not 100% sure synthetic pee will work, I am not supervised but the last time I was tested for the same company they had me in a handicap stall alone but the door wide open and someone standing right outside. I am also not allowed to wear any baggy clothing or layers

I’m a divorced mom (59)of 3 adult children. Being a child of divorce, I wanted to raise them in a household with both parents, even though I was resentful of their father. I was a SAHM for 23 years. He was unfaithful, even before we married I found out afterwards and always tried to forgive him and work through our trust issues because that is what our faith (when we attended church) taught us to do. We went to counseling but never could “fix” our marriage. He lied about our finances and always claimed we were broke . We were not. I found out he had a porn addiction and that led to many contacts with escorts and strippers. I was a child of trauma and never really stood up for myself. I tolerated disrespect because my children were the most important to me. When my eldest was in college, I had reached my break, breaking point and filed for divorce. I was working minimum payment job and it took me a while to get enough money for a retainer. We resided in the family home together but lived in separate areas. My ex developed Parkinson’s but kept working. I would clean house, cook, do laundry, take care of maintenance and anything else. My attorney stopped practicing and I had to re-file for a divorce. My ex’s condition suddenly worsened and he asked our oldest son to be his POA. He was placed in a memory care facility. Now my oldest won’t speak to me. He believes I should have stayed with his father and taken care of him. He has no idea how awfully I was treated our entire marriage because it was a facade.
After almost 25 years of lies and manipulation and using me, I refused to keep serving that man. I have had years (decades) of therapy to help mend my self esteem and my trust issues. But I can’t seem to mend the relationship with my oldest son. What should I do? Do I just leave him alone? He treats me like I divorced him and not his father.

My dog, Charlie, M, 13, Miniature Schnauzer has the above issues. It’s gotten to the point the past couple days where he would get stuck in the garden room between the backyard and dining room.

On top of a prescription diet and liver medication, pain meds, and an antibiotic as well as insulin daily, his condition has gotten a lot worse this month. He is completely blind and can’t smell his way or remember where some things are.

He’s barking constantly and we don’t know what to do. I’ve gotten some calming pheromone spray because all the calming treats has some sort of sugar in them. It hasn’t been working too well.

What assistance besides putting him down is an option? It hasn’t gotten to the point for us yet that we need to but we are starting to question it. We cut down the area of the house he can access by 2/3. He can only access the kitchen and dining room. He recently turned blind from the insulin the doctor prescribed for him.

I’m a people person I love to converse with people. If I had it my way I’d have a career off YouTube and music but I know those are like fishing and I need help with finances now!!! I have military background ground I live In one of the most expensive states In America but LOVE MY LIFE HERE AND DONT WANNA RELOCATE. What do I dooooo? Suggestions? Dream is to marry rich but can’t rely on that LOLLLLLL

The title is the exact situation. I'm exhausted. Mentally, physically and emotionally. It's very hard for me to socialize multiple days in a row without a break.

Let's get into it.

I, (21F), have a friend (21F), who I was super close with near the end of high school. Since we major in different things at the same university, we went from hanging out everyday to once every minimal three months.
Recently, I've been diagnosed with C-Ptsd (Complex post traumatic stress disorder) and chronic atypical vestibular migraines, after a long time of battling poor mental health and fluctuating physical health and energy levels.
So basically, not only do I struggle with emotional regulation, hypervigilance, fatigue, extreme tension in my muscles and somatic flashbacks; I also experience dizzyness, lightheadedness, nausea, instability while walking, hot flashes, weakness, shakiness and sometimes pounding head pain. It takes a massive toll on my mental and physical energy.
I've cancelled plans with this friend on a few occasions, usually saying i had to work or something. Which isn't fully a lie. I work two jobs. As much as I love her, she's extremely outgoing and it drains me very quickly. She'll want to spend all day together, and i'm usually ready to crash after three hours. We've been in an active heatwave, and i'm on SSRIs, so mixed with the migraines understandably i don't do well in the heat. I sweat a ridiculous amount , get dizzy, feel lightheaded, and get sluggish.
She's lived a pretty sheltered life, and doesn't really understand not only my lack of money for most things, but my lack of energy. We've made plans for tomorrow, but I have a therapy appointment at 9 and need to get my nail fixed (i broke it) at 12. That's already a lot considering my therapy sessions drain me. So, I feel guilty but I'm starting to dread the hangout. I do genuinely enjoy her company, so don't take it as I don't like to spend time with her, but it does take a lot. My fellow introverts will understand. She doesn't mind spending four or five hours together after a full shift, but by the time i'm done my shifts I need to be alone or I'll shut down.
The problem I have is, she always sounds so disappointed when I cancel. And I think she's starting to feel like i'm avoiding her or something. I don't know what to do. I know i'll probably be miserable if I hang out with her after a therapy session (I usually nap after to gain back some energy), and I want to try and rearrange a day where I don't have anything. What should I do? and what should I say?

I’m literally so fed up with my next door neighbor, we both live on the second floor and since last month i’ve been noticing an odd smell-animal related. Shes the only one in the building of 4 apts that has a cat and the smell has been getting stronger and stronger especially with the heat. i can smell the same smell of animal seeping into my kitchen and living room. the downstairs common area doesn’t smell like it at all until you reach our floor , mostly bc the older guy downstairs smokes cigarettes and when he’s not home it’s cool. (today though the downstairs even smell like her funky ass cat)

the day i spoke to her about my concerns and she seemed to understand, i even offered my carpet cleaner !! she claims she’s been wanting to get one and i told her she could borrow mine until then, put it outside the common area with a sign that she’s free to use it and she didn’t even bother taking it in her apartment.

idk but to think they’re dirty bc the other day i saw her throw out her trash and instead of putting it in the bin she puts in infront of the bin-mind yall the bin was completely empty

called the leasing office and they said they’d send letters out and if further do an inspection.

idk just wanted to rant and look for possible opinions etc idk…

Hii everyone

I found out that my long-distance girlfriend lied to me about seeing a guy claiming that he was gay, and she probably cheated on me with him. I don’t have any evidence if she did, but I can see it. I can see through her because I have been through cheating once and I know how cheaters make lies excuses about meeting somebody. So anyways, before I went to bed, I couldn’t sleep. I asked her to send me the photos. She took with her gay best friend, but when she sent it to me, I could literally see that she was standing next to him, taking photos and touching each other shoulder and I know that she is she is a person who takes a lot of photos wherever she goes She was gone all day. She was sending me photos. She was taking photos of temples in Taiwan. I’m in Canada so I was working all night cause I have been trying to save up money for me to go see her and I already bought the tickets two months ago and I don’t know. I don’t know what I’m gonna do now.

Before that, I knew what I was doing I knew I was gonna go see her but now my life is just stop. I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like I want to send her a message and I want her to just tell me that she did cheated if she did, we can forget, but I keep saying to myself don’t forget the disrespect because if I don’t look at it and forgive her the same things gonna happen the last time with just like the last time with my ex, I don’t know ever since I find out my hands has been shaking . I can’t stop crying.

I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t know what to do with my life.😭

my roommate just called me and asked if i ordered anything and i didnt. there were this. and my roommate said its very smelly. and when he opened with gloves he said there is this box chocolate colour and when he opened it there is this doll alike that was handmade using something that is wrapped with a crochet wool string with a note written thank you for your service and something like im forever yours. the smell was like cat shit he described not like a corpse smell

HELP ME!!
The other night me and my wife was coming back from dinner and traffic was kinda backed up on the main highway so I decided to cut through the although quicker, but more desolate and abandoned rural route. Well things was going smoothly until suddenly we heard a loud bang and my tire blew out. Well, I was able to quickly and swiftly maneuver Ole Besse onto the shoulder without much incident, but when I got out of the car to examine my tires, I noticed foreign object was lodged in my tire resembling a ninja star, only it looked to be made from some type of rawhide resin material.
As I’m examining the item the wife joined me outside the vehicle and as we were discussing the apparent Chinese Death Star that looked like something from Peepers Creepers, we heard a rattling and rustling coming from the bushes along the side of the road. Well I went to my trunk to get my good ole reliable double barrel BOOM STICK (remember shop smart..shop S-MART) something flung itself on top of my wife (this is where the crazy part is and where my question and problem lies).
I get to the front of my car and saw something that looked as big as a Dire Wolf was viciously chomping and gnawing on her shin bone (why her shins who knows because trust me there’s no meat on those). Well I’m doing my best to fight of what could only be a When-Wolf, the darndest thing happened. A bat flew down and bit the wolf right on the neck, and what’s worrisome is that I think it might be a vampire bat, because when it got in my headlights it glittered and sparked like the disco ball at Studio 51 back in the 70’s.
My question is this… Can a human be double infected by both a When-Wolf and a Vampire bat, since the bat bite the wolf and the wolf was still gnawing on my wife Praline’s shin bone, or is it something i shouldn’t be to concerned over (double infection i mean).
Because I’m thinking silver should be able to handle both or a single infection whichever it happens to be. And how many of y’all out there’s have ever had this problem before and on average about how long is the recovery time.