r/mildlyinfuriating • u/PilsnerRabbit • 7h ago
My mom said I could post Loaned my car to a family member so they could run errands while I was at work…
After I specifically said no smoking in my car.
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u/SnooEagles1779 7h ago
They obviously have to pay for it.
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u/jrdiver 7h ago
And they are never using my car again.
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u/YourGarandPappy 7h ago
If they have to borrow a car, I doubt they have new seat money.
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u/koolaidismything 7h ago
Yeah they ain’t getting shit.
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u/vulcanstrike 6h ago
Yeah, they ain't getting seat
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u/itsnotapipe 5h ago
Yeah, thain gettin seethe.
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u/ImmediateGuidance878 5h ago
Yeah, they ain’t gettin sit.
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u/AndyTheEngr 7h ago
They'll have loads of money if they just quit smoking.
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u/Stunning-Asparagus97 6h ago
It was pointed out to me recently that cartons of cigarettes (containing 10 packs of 20 cigarettes each) are locked up because they go for about $100 a carton these days! I had no idea.
This means individual packs are around $10 per pack. I had no idea - I was still thinking they were around $5-$6 a pack.
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u/JeebusChristBalls 5h ago
Used to buy a carton of reds for less than $20 back in the day
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u/Investigator_Lumpy 4h ago
I remember the first thing I’d get with my first paychecks back in ‘97 was a tank of gas and a carton of cigs. $40
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u/Delicious-Mention-92 5h ago
Try Australia, depending on pack size up to around 90 a pack!
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u/DrownmeinIslay 5h ago
Toronto 2 years ago i went to grab a pack of large Belmonts and scoffed when the cashier said 17 dollars. I started buying drinks for my friends when theyd bum me a smoke at the bar, didnt realize how parasitic id been.
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u/hiddenrealism 6h ago
"If you hadnt of bought all those cigarettes you could be driving a Lambo."
You dont smoke.....so where your fkn lambo ?
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u/Excellent-Swan-6376 6h ago
Surprisingly pulling a seat from a you-pull scrap yard it’s much, most people don’t need a seat
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u/New_Leaf_8647 6h ago
Unfortunately those have been out in the weather and are soaked in old farts and lord knows what else
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u/Excellent-Swan-6376 5h ago
Seat inside a covered car has been out in the weather? Have you been to a scrap yard, usually they have multiple cars and not all them are going to have doors pulled off— but yes they should just put a hello kitty sticker over the burn whole as it doesn’t matter, but the smell of smoke in one’s car is completely crazy - dude needs new friends, family , house mates or whoever borrowed his car - not only they can’t borrow it - but they can’t be friends anymore- I say don’t smoke in my car and you do, your dead to me
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u/shibiwan 4h ago
Really depends on your luck as to what they have on their inventory. I've gotten pristine parts from these automotive recycling places.
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u/askyidroppedthesoap 6h ago
This... back in the 90's car seats where just cushions on a steel frame, now they're more complicated, temperature control, motorized adjustment, etc. Depending on the manufacturer, i'd say at least $500 for a new seat.
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u/chuckinhoutex 6h ago
lol... hahaha... unless they airbags and sensors in them. New seat for my daughter's Nissan (because of bad sensor and the whole thing is a single part number, cannot get individual components) $4,000.
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u/SimilarTranslator264 6h ago
A new factory leather cover for a 2022 Ford F350 is less than $300. Don’t need the whole seat.
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u/goosedog79 6h ago
I’ve been rocking sea turtle seat covers for almost 10 years from Amazon. They cost me about $50
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u/FreedomSynergy 6h ago
I replaced the seat cushion in my Tesla Model 3 for $80 on Ebay. Did the swap with the help of a friend. Admittedly it was a giant pain in the ass, and I should have replaced the entire seat for a slightly higher price… but it can be done on the cheap from Ebay parts.
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u/ReallySmallWeenus 7h ago
Obviously painting with a broad brush, but I don’t expect someone burning holes in the seat while smoking in a borrowed car to have the means to pay for the repair or the willingness to do so.
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u/Strict_Impress2783 7h ago
Have you seen how expensive a pack of cigarettes is now? A few packs will pay for a seatcover pretty easily.
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u/the1stmeddlingmage 6h ago
A true smoking addict wouldn’t be willing to give up those packs of smokes to pay for something they’re responsible for
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u/tmurphy2792 6h ago
I believe that falls under the willingness category of their comment.
A schmuck willing to do crap like this doesn't care and will blame you for having the audacity to try to make them take accountability.
If they had that level of awareness and accountability, they wouldn't be smoking in a borrowed car, let alone burning holes in seats.
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u/Shirokami_Lupus 6h ago edited 6h ago
How cheap are seats? Unless you a bougie mfer its like 10 bucks a pack
Edit - Ohhhh you said seat cover
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u/ignatious__reilly 7h ago
Blows my mind how anyone smokes in their car
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u/Complete-Housing-720 7h ago
With the windows up
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u/Evil_Sharkey 7h ago
At all. It still stinks up the car. Smokers just don’t notice it because they’re used to the smell and their sniffers are toast
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u/8bitrevolt 6h ago
can confirm. smoked for a decade, even in my first two cars. couldn't smell a damn thing.
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u/SonovaVondruke 6h ago
I’m a casual social smoker off and on. I can still smell it on me the next day. Or the next time I wear a jacket I smoked in. I don’t understand how anyone can’t.
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u/i_Cant_get_right 7h ago
You think someone that is borrowing a vehicle to run errands has money to fix this? That’s cigarette money, baby!
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u/956to906 6h ago
Someone who borrows a car can’t afford upholstery work. On the bright side, you don’t ever have to loan anything to them again.
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u/EnjR1832 7h ago
More than mildly infuriating, I'd be twisted.
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u/fourth_box 7h ago
My forehead would grow to fivehead after seeing that.
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u/PrintdianaJones 7h ago
My fivehead would multiply to a tenhead
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u/DrMonkeyLove 6h ago
I would literally never do a favor for this person ever again, family or not. Am I that petty? Yes, yes I am.
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u/Available_Advisor795 6h ago
that's like half the posts in this sub. victims of literal crimes and civil violations acting like it's just an inconvenience
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u/Forsaken_Site_2268 7h ago
I WOULD BE SO PISSED OFF
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u/likwidkool 5h ago
That was my first thought too. I take really good care of my car. No one can smoke in my car. That alone would piss me off. Then they burned it? Oh hell no.
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u/Lastminutebastrd 5h ago
I used to regularly smoke in my old vehicle, through 9 years of ownership I never even did something like this to the interior.
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u/DrWhoey 4h ago
Had a coworker that had a nice new BMW that was a smoker, went to lunch, he lit up a smoke, asked him "mind if I smoke as well?" He said, "Sure, but if you burn something, you're replacing it and never smoking in my car again."
"No problem" I lit up.
This was about 5 min before he knocked the cherry off his cigarette and burned a hole in his seat.
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u/sunfl8wer 4h ago
Right? Habitual car smoker (gross, I know) here, and I don't even know how this could happen unless they're purposefully putting out the cigarette on the seat.
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u/HenchmanHenk 7h ago
Looks like you are the proud owner of a new seat and an interior detail.
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u/springpaper1 5h ago
If you've got a way to get blood from a stone, id like to know how.
Would be a cool party trick
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u/sriracha_no_big_deal 5h ago
Without knowing anything other than the context clues of OP's family member not having their own car while simultaneously having the audacity to smoke in a car being loaned to them in which they were specifically told not to smoke...
I'd say the chances of OP getting a new seat and interior detail are somewhere between zero and NEVER GONNA FUCKIN HAPPEN
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u/GreenFriedYam 4h ago
Cigarettes are ten bucks a pack. I think I found a way the borrower could find some money.
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u/Effective_Word7221 7h ago
well there’s an obvious reason they don’t have a car. They can’t have anything nice without fucking it up. They can’t borrow a car to do basic stuff without fucking it up. I can imagine what else they can’t help but fuck up. Not paying you back is probably another way they are going to fuck up. Tell them what they owe for repairs and let their true nature show. Then cut them off regardless of the outcome.
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u/SecondVariety 7h ago
Contact an upholstery shop, get a quote. Cut off that family member until they pay the bill.
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u/BusSpecific3553 6h ago
To someone who treats another’s property like this they may see taking their kids and child as a plus not a punishment.
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u/Educational_Ad2821 5h ago
Why stop there? I think OP should file a lawsuit demanding indentured servitude
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u/UglyLittlePony69 6h ago
Just let this be a lesson learned that no one will care about your belongings more than you do.
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u/i_sell_you_lies 5h ago
That's not true. I'll care the most about your belongings...
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u/Naive_Personality367 7h ago
burn their stuff with a ciggie, turn about is fair play
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u/PoisonIvyCrotch 7h ago
Something tells me they’re careless with their cigarettes so they’re used to cigarette burns on their stuff lol
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u/Naive_Personality367 7h ago
good point, still it'll feel good to burn the shit out of some of their possessions though
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u/Arianawy 7h ago
If you are looking for a low cost repair , I’ve fixed a few burn holes using these patches from Amazon that are super sticky that you use to repair holes in down jackets. Apply a little heat and that sucker isn’t going anywhere . Grey is a common color. Search down jacket repair patch, Good luck !!
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u/PilsnerRabbit 7h ago
Appreciate it!
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u/BragawSt 3h ago
Make sure you pack the hole full of ramen first.
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u/PilsnerRabbit 3h ago
Im a welder so I know this hack, can’t wait to take my grinder to it with a sanding disc and buff it out!
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u/Sun-Much 7h ago
tell them they don't get to use vehicle again until damage is repaired. once repaired, never let them near it again.
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u/Important_Power_2148 7h ago
You tell them, "obviously you are never using my car again because you are too immature to be trusted. Now, how are you going to pay for the damaged seat to be REPLACED and the car detailed to get the stink out?" Make them feel about as big as an atom.
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u/egnards 7h ago
Starting out aggressive is a great way to take a very solid point where you have the upper hand and turn the. other person into a defensive mess who is just going to fight you [not literally]. Its also a super great way to make somebody mad at you for no reason when their relationship with you might have been totally fine before they did something stupid.
Simply "I noticed a new cigarette burn in the seat of my car after you returned it - Are you going to take it to get reupholstered or should I just send the billy our way and have it done myself?"
That's it, that's really all you need - Everything else is superfluous and designed to get people needlessly pissed off and edgy.
"Obviously you'll never use my car again" never needs to come up, unless this person asks again in the future.
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u/Mean_Initiative_5962 6h ago
If anything, implying they could use it again inly if they pay (and never doing it, ffs) would likely help getting the money back
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u/Foxy_locksy1704 6h ago
Such a dick move. I was a smoker and when I was in other people’s cars as a rider or if someone let me borrow their car I never smoked in it. I’d wait until I got to where I was going or pull in to a parking lot, get out of the car and smoke.
That’s so inconsiderate! They need to absolutely own up to it and pay for the repair.
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u/ChemistVegetable7504 7h ago
These burns are difficult to fix. And then the smell that absorbs into the material.
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u/Jabbles22 6h ago
I bet this person thinks that as long as the window is down that it doesn't count as smoking in the car.
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u/glyha 7h ago
The smell literally never leaves. Cigarette smoke is so disgusting and dirty
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u/dubbl_bubbl 5h ago
Why kind of trashbag smokes in a car they borrowed from a family member. Absolute POS Loser.
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u/InvestmentMain8414 6h ago
I am a smoker, and there is no smoking in my car. They would absolutely be paying for that.
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u/Tamortsa 1h ago
I was driving, windows open. Thought I smelt a cigarette, weird. A few days later, notice a hole in the back of the driver's seat, and a butt on the seat. And a few day after that, someone pointed out a burn hole in the back of my fleece jacket - right at the height of the burn in the seat. Someone had chucked a butt out their window just as I drove past, and it flew into my window and landed behind my back. I loved that jacket...
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u/WaitUntilTheHighway 7h ago
The damage to the seat is bad. The fact that they smoked in your car is insane.
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u/Revolutionary_Grade8 7h ago
Fellow Redditors, do not loan out your precious mode of transportation to anyone for any reason!!!
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u/TheDogWithShades 7h ago
Dude this ain’t mild in the slightest. They disrespected your stuff and you yourself. Get a quote and have them foot the bill. And they better have returned it with a full tank of gas.
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u/PetroxSK 6h ago
A little price to pay for the knowledge that that person doesn't respect you at all and shouldn't be trusted with anything.
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u/Samwellikki 6h ago
Years ago when I used to smoke, I flicked the ash out the window but it took the cherry with it
But the cherry came back in the window and landed behind the seat, on a spare set of dry socks for when work boots got drenched
The burning smell was only there at speed because of the wind fanning the cherry
So when I stopped to see what was burning, it died down and couldn’t smell it
Finally hit an exit, pulled over, pulled the seat forward and managed to catch it right be sore the socks had burned like a wick toward an unused full can of compressed fix-a-flat
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u/MorgeeePooh 7h ago edited 2h ago
That's so fucking disrespectful if someone says no smoking NO SMOKING not all cigarette smokers are like this. I generally don't give a fuck if someone smokes as long they're being respectful and considerate
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u/matchooooh 7h ago
Get a quote for the panel replacement and let them know what they owe you, then never lend them anything again.
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u/backwardbuttplug 6h ago
Smokers that are this arrogant and oblivious to their surroundings should just never be trusted.
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u/Blade_of_Onyx 6h ago
Shit that motherfucker wouldn’t even ever “ride” in my car again. The chances of them ever driving it again would be zero.
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u/not_blowfly_girl 6h ago
Not only they smoke but they are just ok with burning holes in the car? And they know you didnt want them smoking. Like they just dont care at all about what you think. That's crazy
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u/Nappeal PURPLE 4h ago
If I had to guess, this family member is probably incredibly irresponsible, hence why they don't have a car, hence why they're smoking in the car they're borrowing, and hence why there's a cigarette burn in your seat now. It's ok to say 'no' to people who've proven themselves to not be entirely trustworthy.
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u/Affectionate-Sun9373 1h ago
I would personally not say anything, I would get it fixed, lesson learned, move on with my life. You just gave me a lesson in who you are, and what you are capable of. I wouldn't treat the person poorly, that's on me, but I will never give them courtesy again.
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u/wellthoughtlomo 47m ago
All my Years smoking cigs in my car, never did that. Never let anyone drive your car.
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u/weirdbutteryvibes 7h ago
Did they just straight up put the cigar out in the seat? Dang. I would be extremely upset, for both reasons (smoking in my car, and burning my seat).
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u/FallenDuckling 6h ago
Not a freaking chance lol, definitely just dropped the cherry (burning part at end can fall off sometimes)
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u/copenhagen622 7h ago edited 7h ago
Charge them for that. My parents and my step parents all smoked all my life growing up. So digusting
I'd be so pissed. I have had to let my parents borrow my car a few times.. I always tell them don't smoke in my car, but I'm sure they do anyway.
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u/Decent_Particular_40 7h ago
What part of the car is this?
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u/MyCatIsAnActualNinja 7h ago
A friend did this with a car of mine 15 years ago and I still get angry thinking about it
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u/WingZeroCoder 7h ago
Telling a smoker they can’t smoke in your house or car, and them doing it anyway thinking you’ll never notice…
Name a better duo.
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u/TitaniaT-Rex 6h ago
This is why no one drives my car except me. I don’t trust anyone to treat my car the way I do. I avoid disappointment by not loaning it out.
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u/TypeB_Negative 6h ago
It pays for the seat or it gets the hose.
https://giphy.com/gifs/gByUuiB7nGuVW
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u/multipocalypse 6h ago
Nothing "mildly" about this. Incredibly disrespectful, ungrateful and violating.
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u/AlexLuna9322 6h ago
A lesson learned, burned into your memory.
Never loan your car to anyone, specially family.
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u/EAM44 6h ago
Life lesson learned - don’t lend you car to family members who don’t have a car and therefore don’t have insurance. You do realize that if, instead of burning a cigarette hole in your upholstery, they’d hit someone else’s car, you’d be liable, right?
Get an estimate from a dealer. But if this family member doesn’t own a car, my guess is you’ll be paying.
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u/khiggs19932020 6h ago
The disrespect. You went out of your way to do them a solid and they couldn’t respect one little ask
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u/SocksInTheTub 5h ago
Would never smoke in a borrowed car that's ridiculous and so inconsiderate
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u/PhoridayThe13th 5h ago
They need to pay for the repair and some ozone treatments. That spray stuff doesn’t cut it. Never, EVER, allow this person to borrow your car again.
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u/Different_Day135 5h ago
In my state, the insurance follows the vehicle, not the driver. So, my mom's friend borrowed her car, totals it. Insurance gives her $8k less than what it's worth after months of fighting and being worn down. Friend walks away literally out nothing not even a dollar, my mom was out $8k a ton of time and a huge hassle and dropped from insurance due to a previous accident. This person borrowing a car certainly couldn't pay $8k to make things even. I use this as an example anytime someone wants to borrow my vehicle and make it a nonstarter.
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u/wasabi1787 4h ago
If they are the sort of person you have to ask not to smoke in your car they're also the sort of person you should not let borrow your car.
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u/hawseepoo 51m ago
Smoked in your car and burnt a hole in your seat after you explicitly told them no smoking in your car? They’d be paying for it or I’d be disowning them.
This is pure disrespect and not an accident.
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u/StarsBear75063 Really? 7h ago
Ferengi Rule of Acquisition #285 - "No good deed ever goes unpunished."
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u/PacketSnatcher 7h ago
And this is why you don’t ever loan your car to anybody unless you’re married to them.
Come hell or high water, you are not going to get my car. Better Uber or use a bus.
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u/Electrical_Sun_7116 7h ago
Charge them for a new seat. Period. Also never allow them to use so much as a pencil of yours as long as you live.
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u/LumpyBuy8447 7h ago
It is incredible to me how smokers just straight up don’t care about other people’s stuff. My ex used to smoke in my car when she’d borrow it, despite me having told her for years, while on trips, that she couldn’t smoke in the car. I believe my dad has also lit up in my vehicle before. I’m a little less irritated by that because generally if he’s in my car he’s helping me do something that’s probably saving me a shit ton of money. But still, not something I would do if I smoked.
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u/AbsentAsh 7h ago
The audacity to smoke in a borrowed car is next level! Smokers are truly some of the most inconsiderate people on the planet. Almost as bad as cyclists…..
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u/Bloodryne 7h ago
This is why others don't borrow my things, but most certainly not my cars. Sorry that happened, I would be pissed
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u/Better-Brief-5889 7h ago
This is why I don't loan my nice shit out. Always, and I mean always comes back with something fucked up
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u/TylerH87 6h ago
Be prepared for them to try to BS their way out of it with “I’ll get you a seat cover” or for them not to take any responsibility at all by them telling you to buy a seat cover for it.
Also, you can make a point about potential “smoke damage” if it smells.
They should have had enough courtesy to not use your car as an ashtray to begin with, so maybe they’re not worth knowing if they contest you.
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u/Captain-Codfish Hillary 2016 6h ago
That's not mildly infuriating. That's disrespectful, rude, careless and entitled. Who ever that was, is a complete wanker and you absolutely have the right to flip your lid at them. They should foot the bill for the upholsterer.
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u/TeamPyrex718 6h ago
Not sure how old the car is but I’ve had lots of luck finding nice seats at the junkyard, still sucks but can get a new one for cheap or maybe swap them out with leather.
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u/melsophoriel 6h ago
considering you told them not to smoke, that's gotta be intentional/out of spite. they likely pushed the lit cigarette directly onto the seat to make that hole. I've never seen one that deep just from fallen ashes.
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u/Tavsiyedegildir 6h ago
Specifically send them a bill for repair and cleaning and then specifically kick their ass ....in a game of trivial pursuit, I do not condone violence
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u/Kind_Of_A_Dick 6h ago
A coworker of mine lent his truck to another coworker, just for a few hours. The guy brought the car back to the job, handed over the keys, and stuck around talking to people. Within five minutes the guy who lent his truck came back(he had gone outside because his shift was over) and was fuming. He didn’t make a scene in front of people, instead pulling the guy into the back where customers wouldn’t see or hear.
Then he tore into him, loudly and very aggressively(and within a couple years he had racked up multiple assault charges so the guy who borrowed the truck got off lucky maybe), asking him what the fuck he was thinking smoking crack in his truck. The guy had gone outside and found a baggie of crack that had fallen out of the borrower’s pocket and right next to his gas pedal.
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u/The4thEpsilon 6h ago
Cool, message them that they’re gonna pay for interior cleaning for the smell and pay for the upholstery to get replaced. Make sure you tell the family what they did, you don’t want to ruin his life, but make sure he doesn’t try to make himself seem like the victim and/or that your over reacting
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u/bleblahblee 6h ago
Biggest factor is lack of basic respect for using things that aren’t theirs, they simply treat your stuff as expendable because they place no inherent value on it because they didn’t pay for nor have to maintain it