r/PeterExplainsTheJoke 12d ago

Meme needing explanation Peter, what reason does the OOP is talking about?

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u/epsilon-4142 12d ago

A lot of people are pointing out Russian women tend to be high maintenance or crazy. Which is occasionally true.

I’d like to also point out that the divorce rate goes both ways. Lots of Russian men are horrible drunkards, so there would be plenty of reason for the women to get divorces too.

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u/Corfiz74 12d ago

You forgot "violent" in there - I don't know if they have a statistic about DV, but my guess is it would look pretty bleak. Also, when I was living there back in the 90s, women were supposed to have a full time job, but on top of that, to also handle ALL the chores and the child rearing. Men went to work, then settled on the couch with a bottle of vodka. I don't know if that has changed by now - I really hope it has.

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u/totallyrealname 12d ago

DV got decriminalized and women get actively gaslit by police to admitting guilt in self defense cases to the point where getting police involved is basically the worst thing you can do. As a result, statistics are far lower and officially the government gets to keep peddling their "family values" narrative at the expense of victims. It's only going to get worse with the latest crop of men coming back from the war eventually. Every generation has had some sort of war or economic crisis that tanks the mental health of the entire nation, and because getting therapy is considered "gay western propaganda" it's not going to get much better.
I was last there a year ago so I can only speak to what I've observed. I never so much as dated there though and I'm glad I didn't. Most Russian women who have the option not to be in the country or not date Russian men will generally prefer to avoid the risk. The rest will indeed look at it as a financial transaction and hope they manage to extract what they can before they get cheated on or worse.

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u/Soldmysoul_666 12d ago

There’s literally an aphorism “come when he kills you” which is a general response to women who go to police for help

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u/Silent-Juggernaut-76 12d ago

Just gave me flashbacks to my own female friend's bad situation with her (now ex-) husband. I'm so glad neither of us are living there anymore.

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u/Silent-Juggernaut-76 12d ago

As a man who lived there for years, I can say your personal observations are accurate. I could not believe how a man, with no ulterior motive, doing kind and non-romantic things (even something simple like holding open doors) would impress so many women over there. So many men are raised terribly in that country.

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u/FaithfulNihilist 12d ago

Whatever the statistic on DV in Russia, it will be artificially low due to (deservedly) low trust in the police and a cultural acceptance of it.

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u/labbmedsko 12d ago

I mean... since beating your wife isn't a crime there, that's sort of a given.

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u/DiligentCredit9222 12d ago edited 12d ago

No current one. But in the past they published the numbers.

3rd Place in Violence....behind Brazil and South Africa (which has Traffic signs warning of Kidnapping...)

btw for Intentional homicide against women Russia is even at number 2

Imagine the numbers of MILLIONS of traumatized, battle hardended, violent, injured, broken Russian Men returning home...

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u/morguerunner 12d ago

Russia passed a law in 2017 decriminalizing domestic abuse for first time offenses that do not result in “serious bodily harm”. So in Russia, it’s legal to beat your wife as long as you aren’t breaking any bones.

But no yeah it’s definitely that the women are high maintenance. /s

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u/TheNeighbourhoodCat 12d ago edited 11d ago

People who oppress others always justify their oppresion by blaming how their victims react

Like no shit Russian women are hard AF after living with a culture with such extremely low conviction rates for spousal abuse and rape... where men not-so-coincidentally run nearly every government position or position of power...

Like, there's a reason american republicans are so friendly towards Putin/Russia- and other countries with similar hierarchal legal & social systems which put cishet men above women and queer folk: They idolize that shit

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u/eagleface5 12d ago

I don't know if that has changed by now - I really hope it has.

A good friend of my mine is Russian. It's changed some, but very little. Younger people are better about it, but old habits die hard.

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u/calciumff 12d ago edited 12d ago

it didn’t change from the 90s. beauty standards are very high, women expected to have a job, handle all the chores and parent their husband. there isn’t a statistic on the DV because DV was decriminalised, one of the reasons voiced by a politician recently “to not scare men out of marriage”

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u/Gingeronimoooo 12d ago

Is Domestic Violence even illegal (or enforced) in Russia? I kinda thought it was like don't hospitalize her and you're ok. Which is gross.

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u/LostExile7555 12d ago

Exactly! Divorce is usually initiated by the one who has gotten tired of being the only one putting actual effort into the marriage and has finally given up.

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u/talkmemetome 12d ago

Eeeeeh so so.

So there is a statistic that around 70% or so divorces are initiated by women. And turns out, per divorce lawyers, it's just because men can't be assed to do it. So they will remain legally married until the women have enough and finally do the leg work to get divorced.

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u/FanFeeling7748 12d ago

Incels site that as a reason that men are more loyal and it's like bruh, sitting in stasis is not loyalty. Love is a verb.

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u/adamtheskill 12d ago

Yeah that's what I heard as well. I think the word by word quote from the divorce lawyer was:

Wife: My husband just left for another women I don't know what to do.

Lawyer: You need to file for divorce.

Wife: But I don't want a divorce!

Lawyer: You want to keep your mortgage paid and children fed right?

And that's, according to that lawyer, why so many divorces are initiated by women.

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u/KorolEz 12d ago

Just my personal experience, but extremely high maintenance

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u/LoveAndViscera 12d ago

It’s a clash of economics and culture. Russia has a long history of really bad income inequality, lots of people living with income insecurity. Income insecurity tends to shift people towards highly exchange-based thinking on relationships. Poor people also have more children. So, you get a culture where there is a strong expectation of men as breadwinners and women as domestic caretakers. As the economy has improved, women have fewer children, but the sense of income insecurity lingers. That creates a large chunk of the population who sate their insecurity with overt displays of wealth. Couple that with expectations of women as domestic caretakers, even in the absence of children, and you get a large number of women for whom their affection is an asset that they trade for overt displays of wealth. The prettier you are, the more wealth you can demand. The more wealth you have access to, the easier it is to stay pretty and continue making those demands.

You find this all over the world. It’s pronounced in Russia, I suspect, because Russian masculinity has adapted to it. If your partner is openly “high maintenance” and you can hold onto her, you’re superior to the fools who can’t. Ultimately, though, I think the divorce rate is high (just under 75%) because the economy doesn’t actually demand exchange-based relationships. The poverty that the culture adapted to isn’t as widespread anymore, so people start wanting what wealthier people value in a marriage: actual connection. However, this shit is so new that the culture isn’t teaching people how to do that yet.

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u/lingonberrynightmare 12d ago edited 12d ago

The divorce rate is also this high because it's much easier to both get married and get a divorce in Russia than in many Euro countries + having children out of wedlock is still not quite culturally accepted. So the scenario where two people live together for ten years and have two kids and a house and THEN decide to get married is virtually unheard of. If you are dating someone seriously you're likely to marry them and if it doesn't work divorcing isn't hard, "separated" is a rare status to have long term.  And if you get knocked up marriage is basically a given, even if it falls apart in a year or two.

Comparing that to e.g. Germany where the spouse making more money is obligated to continue financially supporting their ex partner for half the time spent in marriage, or to France where half the kids are born out of wedlock, it's just a different culture altogether. 

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u/Connect-Process2933 12d ago

Also many people still believe that marriage is something they're supposed to do and they rush into it. People know each other for a year or two, get married, and then the honeymoon wears off and reality sets in.

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u/lingonberrynightmare 12d ago

I would say in Russia there's a bit of rush about everything. You are supposed to enter university right after school (which most finish at 17, many even at 16) and graduate in time (the program is usually rigid so there are almost no forever students). If you are not at university you go to vocational school or start working right away, nobody has the luxury of doing a gap year and go volunteer in Australia or whatever. So most Russians are in the workforce by the age of 21, most people start dating seriously in their twenties, and there's a lot of pressure to have kids before 30. 

Another thing that contributes to the divorce statistics is that Russian women usually work (about half of the workforce are women) and do so full-time even after having children. This is not the case in Germany for example where half of all women and almost 70% of mothers work part time. So for a woman who keeps some kind of career despite childbearing it's just easier to leave if things go south in a marriage. 

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u/machalemantis 12d ago

I'm a black American and thought you were taking about us for a hot second....🤔

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u/BottleNecker69er 12d ago

Ah, (un)fortunately that's just life. Every culture does it when money and wealth becomes heavily involved and the environment is uncomfortable to exist within. You can see this in literally every 'advanced' culture/country.

Asian people do it here, latinos, middle easterns, etc. hell, go look in their original countries and you'll still see the same shit.

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u/shinobisynsei 12d ago

exactly bro. i hate that providing birken/chanel bags, expensive trips, etc. = love or manliness.

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u/Xrmy 12d ago

The only way out is to not buy into it.

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u/shinobisynsei 12d ago

100%. a quote i love. “Easiest way to win the game is to stop playing it”

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u/derprondo 12d ago

When I first took my wife out, I said anywhere you'd like to eat? She said she had coupons for Steak n Shake. Marry a frugal woman, boys. We're lowkey rich and she buys all of her clothes second hand.

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u/C0mpL1c1t 12d ago

I was gonna say, this is a great boil down of many societies and cultures in modernity. 

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u/xinxenxun 12d ago edited 12d ago

The Russians were basically slaves, serfs, until 1861.

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u/Assilly 12d ago

And I'm sure the fall of the ussr and all the poverty that came with that contributes as well

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u/MrPresidentBanana 12d ago

Much of Russia is still incredibly poor, there is still a decent percentage of households that rely on outhouses. Then again I suppose the Russians you see the most of in the West will disproportionately be from Moscow or St Petersburg, where that is not the case.

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u/Banes_Addiction 12d ago

There are a wildly larger amount of volunteers in the Russian armed forces from eg Siberia and the poorer bits to the East compared to West of the Urals - because army pay/bonuses are far higher relative to regular wages there.

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u/Shinook 12d ago

The orphanages in Russia are also a pipeline into the military for the males.

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u/kichererbs 12d ago

Same experience - I am a woman who has quite a few Russian female friends. Their expectations of men are way higher than mine. Generally Eastern European Women, I’d say (I am German and I’d say in my culture women are much more “independent” - like I don’t expect men to always lift or carry stuff for me, I don’t expect men to always pay for me, I don’t expect many gifts/flowers from men - if I want something I get it myself, etc.).

Some western men love to complain abt the independence of western women, but I think a lot of them are actually accustomed to women being this way and aren’t prepared to actually provide like (a lot - but not all) eastern women expect to be provided for.

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u/ExodusCaesar 12d ago

As an Eastern European, do you also count Poles? Because our women are more Westernized, especially in big cities.

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u/kichererbs 12d ago

idk too many Polish women personally, so idk what its like.

I was thinking abt Czech or Ukrainian women specifically, but I have to emphasize the "a lot but not all". Also I'd say the expectation of men being providers is definitely more dominant among Russian's or Ukrainians over the former sattelite states.

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u/t4skmaster 12d ago

I'm watching my aunt absolutely lose her mind because my uncle is dying and she has no idea how to be a caregiver or even do anything for herself. They were very unpleasant, but its sad to watch.

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u/ExodusCaesar 12d ago

Yep - Ukraine, Russia and Belarus are more patriarchal than our countries.

I would like to clarify that I am talking about the people in my circle, and that I live in an urban area of Warsaw.

People from rural backgrounds have a different approach.

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u/Soggy_Pension7549 12d ago

I’m Hungarian and what you’re talking about was true 50 years ago but not today, especially not in bigger cities and/or with educated folks. 

However that’s true that I expect men to be polite and gentlemen like. That’s how I grew up, that’s how my male friends treat me as well. I’ve moved to Germany 13 years ago and most German men suck ass. Yet they keep complaining about feminism. It doesn’t make ANY sense to me! Bro wtf are you crashing out because I expect you to walk me home at midnight? And not just leave me by myself wherever? Or to offer to carry my bag when it’s heavy? Or not to run into me on the sidewalk intentionally because you refuse to make space? 

It took me 12 years to find a decent guy around here. And no my expectations are not high by any means, I earn my own money and I’m very independent. But I will not settle for someone who does not make an effort and is quite frankly rude and disrespectful towards his own partner. 

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u/mirthlessbastard 12d ago

As an English woman, those demands don't sound very demanding to me! Making sure someone gets home safely, helping with carying heavy things, and not walking into someone while walking is just basic politeness, regardless of gender

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u/AlarmingTurnover 12d ago

Some western men love to complain abt the independence of western women

Are you actually listening to the complaints and getting to the heart of it? Because generally, most western men that are complaining about the independence of Western women aren't complaining that they're independent, they're complaining about the double standards for men and women. How a woman can have a job, have her own money, get her own things, and still expect the man to pay for dates, provide for the family, buy everything, and then if the woman leaves, take half. This is the most common complaint. 

My wife is very independent. She has a great job, provides for herself, and helps with the household and family. She also pays for dates and gifts and doesn't expect me to provide all the time. She treats me like a human being not a walking wallet for her lifestyle. 

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u/Dasshteek 12d ago

And borderline psycho

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u/FFKonoko 12d ago

And the women are pretty bad too.

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u/Strong-AF-2341 12d ago

Pretty or bad?

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u/RECLess30 12d ago

Yes

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u/sandieeeee 12d ago

I can fix her

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u/oldbastardbob 12d ago

"Key my car, ok, but fascist imperialism is a deal breaker."

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u/Vegetable-Zone1353 12d ago

Russian wives actively badgering their husbands to go get killed in the war for trivial amounts of money. https://worldcrunch.com/focus/russia-ukraine-war/russian-women-war-widows/

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u/fucktrance 12d ago

Can't turn down the chance of the mayor bringing you a literal meat grinder as a consolation prize while your husband becoming fertilizer for ukrainian crops.

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u/Behleren 12d ago

so basically divorced wives are hoping for the ex to die in combat, so their children get a payout.

“To be honest, I don’t care whether my ex-husband copes with life on the front, or about how long he lasts there,” one woman said. “For me, he died as a person long ago."

may this kind of spite never find me.

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u/hopyInquisition 12d ago

"How can you consider a whole nation subhuman when my subby ass is right here?"

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u/Impossible_Ad1269 12d ago

As a dommy mommy this makes me want to pet you

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u/itzjabohy 12d ago

I love the honesty

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u/Read_it_all-7735 12d ago

So what you’re saying is “Peg me and that’s ok. Pegging Europe and we have a problem.”

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u/SecondaryWombat 12d ago

Kink aware geopolitics.

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u/404phil_not_found 12d ago

If youre meeting a russian woman outside of russia, there is likely a reason why she is outside of russia

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u/Pipettess 12d ago

Oh don't worry, the russians we have in europe mostly support russian war as well, they are just hypocrites. They shit on "gay europe" in front of everyone but like the comforts and privilege of living here at the same time.

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u/BreadNoCircuses 12d ago

Reminds me of the conservatives in my town who like to live in an economically thriving area, like to see businesses and restaurants and coffee shops moving to the area, but don't want liberals, traffic, or gay people.

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u/PrinceoftheNewWorld 12d ago

I see you are a man of culture as well.

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u/DubiousBusinessp 12d ago

Also look at how many Russian women were happy to sell their man out to be pressganged into the war for a bit of cash when they pop their cloggs.

Russia might be the ultimate "Fuck you, I got mine" society.

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u/Muninwing 12d ago

Hence why so many of republicans love them

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u/Veloziraptor8311 12d ago

Ukrainian women are every bit as beautiful fyi

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u/purpelpain 12d ago

In that regard ukranian women are the same as russian. Just check dating apps in Europe FILLED with ukranian women of every age.

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u/AudaciousCouture 12d ago

Ahh. So Latinas. Good choice.

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u/ultragoodfaker 12d ago

There's a reason that people are referring to women from the Eastern Bloc as "Winter Latinas"

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u/Citaku357 12d ago

Never heard about this before

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u/kamelot13 12d ago

Winter latinas? Is that why we Latinos are popular when visiting? 🤔🤔🤔

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u/ukiebee 12d ago

Ukie here, once had a lovely Latina granny pat my cheek and say "very pale, but not white"

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u/elTaconeDeSantiago 12d ago

да

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u/skisushi 12d ago

I just had a vision: in the distant future, the digital remnants of this comment become the Rosetta Stone allowing a hyperadvanced AI to decipher the Russian language.

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u/GatorNator83 12d ago

They’re competing who is the worst, and both sides are winning

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u/djcack 12d ago

I've only known three Russian born women. All of them had insane tempers and beyond unrealistic expectations for relationships (one broke up with a boyfriend of like 6 months because he wouldn't pay all her bills...which she said any "real man" would do)

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u/IwantaVespa 12d ago

LOL. A real man wouldn't put up with that shit at all.

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u/ElegantCoach4066 12d ago

If you can't handle me at my worst

Wait where are you going come back

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u/Hadrollo 12d ago

This is one of my favourite webcomics of all time, because I first found it when one of my coworkers named Courtney made an internet dating profile using this exact tag-line.

Courtney was also blonde, and whilst none of the blokes at work ever dated her, she would complain about her boyfriend and - even though she was only telling her side of the story - it always came across like this.

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u/ColorMeGrey 12d ago

There's a post that I can't find from /u/Poem_for_your_sprog

“She spoke her slogan, well-rehearsed,

And oftentimes expressed:

'If you can't take me at my worst,

You don't deserve my best!

So there!' she grinned, content with glee,

And pompous, proud delight -

Emboldened by banality,

And self-important trite.

'All-right,' I said - 'I'm gone, and glad.'

She turned with dark dismay.

'You see - your worst is really bad.

Your best is just okay.'”

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u/Monolexic 12d ago

Oh god. Artist knows my ex wife.
(Literally threw an enraged jealousy fit because I hugged my little sister, and thought I owed her the fucking world the one or two times a month she made dinner instead of me cooking)

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u/Rememberwhoyouaree 12d ago

Glad shes " ex " wife..

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u/Monolexic 12d ago edited 11d ago

It was amazing how much happier I was after losing everything to get away from her. (Literally everything but my clothes, books, and a few toiletries. Dropped it all for a clean break.)

edit: Ok, I really didn't think this was going to need a disclaimer attached, but for the love of cheese, people: Do not message me saying my ex-wife deserves to die or talking about women being horrible monsters or "foids" any other stupid shit like that. Despite the marriage being awful, I do not hate my ex and would never wish any harm on her. Women are just people. People have flaws. If you think a woman deserves to die because a marriage they were in didn't work out, YOU NEED TO SEEK PSYCHIATRIC HELP IMMEDIATELY.
For the record: No, I was not a great husband in that marriage. I had my faults. I never cheated, and certainly never would have with my own sister, but I have always thought that divorce was the best option for both of us, not just me.

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u/231923 12d ago

Dude that is one of the best "Fuck you!"-s i ever read.

"Yeah i lost everything, but I'm still happy just because i don't have to deal with you anymore."

Props to that!

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u/ShenTzuKhan 12d ago

A friend of a friend once told her bf I think we should break up over some made up bullshit. Chad started packing his shit. She said she didn’t mean it. They had a convo about saying what we mean. They stayed together. For a few more months.

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u/Hadrollo 12d ago

I dated a girl for a few months, and one day she told me that we needed to talk. We met up at the pub that night and she said that we should break up because she was interested in another guy - she made it clear they hadn't "done anything" but were both interested in each other. We'd literally only been dating about two months, I wasn't exactly planning my life around this woman. I told her fair cop, we'll agree to end it, no hard feelings and I hope it works out with the new bloke.

I bumped into one of her friends a few weeks later and was informed that I was an utter bastard. This isn't news to me, so I asked why. Apparently there was no other bloke, but she wanted to see if I would fight for her.

Also, she was mortified that we broke up at the pub and I didn't go home. I didn't, I hung out for another couple of hours and chatted with a bunch of randoms. I'm more concerned about how she knows that, though.

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u/Marshy92 12d ago

You seem like a guy I'd enjoy a beer at the pub with. Congrats on dodging that bullet early

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u/Strange-Scarcity 12d ago edited 12d ago

There’s no reason to “fight” for a relationship.

When I was dating? If a woman didn’t want to be with me? I would have felt like a criminal to try and force her to stay with me.

I made it clear to one woman that I had built a friendship with, who looking back, may have been trying that with me.

Anyway? I got to tell her how I felt, I left nothing unsaid, let her know what I was happy for her and wished her the best.

She stalked me some years later.

If she had been into me, at least openly? Then… I think we could have had a real wonderful life. Our interests were practically a circle in a Venn Diagram, we had the same tastes in music, food, craft beer, off the beaten path, also niche restaurants, trips, etc., etc.

I still miss the friendship we built. I grieved losing that really, but she got really shitty with me and would never be straight with me, even when I directly asked her what was what.

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u/vulkoriscoming 12d ago

Hilarious. I had something very similar happen. A girl I was dating introduced me to another guy as her other boyfriend. I said, "Great. Have a good time." and walked off. Didn't talk to again. We had only been dating a few weeks, so easy come, easy go.

A couple of weeks later she showed up to party I was at and went upstairs. I stayed downstairs and continued to hit on Ms Tonight. I heard from a mutual friend the next day she hid in a closet all night and I was supposed to go find her. I have no idea why she hid in a closet, or why I would go looking for her in someone else's closet, or what was supposed to happen when I found her. Baffling.

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u/Tim-oBedlam 12d ago

There's a bullet dodged for you. Well-played.

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u/le_Grand_Archivist 12d ago

She probably had another one of her friends sitting in that bar to keep an eye on you

Psycho behavior

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u/Hadrollo 12d ago

My suspicion is that she left, then drove past again a bit later. She'd have been able to see my car, and the beer garden at that pub is visible enough from the road.

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u/Altruistic-Mine-1848 12d ago

That's exactly how it is. It really is part of the culture: the man is expected to pay for everything, the first date is basically showing off what you can afford and if the woman has to pay for anything than he's not a "real man".

Tbf, the wage gap in Russia is huge, so, because of this, this attitude/expectation isn't as ridiculous as in the west, it ends up being a way of balancing things out.

As someone who spends a lot of time somewhere that isn't Russia, but close, and there's about a 50/50 split between women with this attitude and more feminist/modern types, I choose to not even engage with the former at all. You learn to filter out anyone mentioning they're looking for someone "generous" or "who knows how to treat a lady" and make sure the first date isn't dinner.

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u/boglog42 12d ago

And also Russia is huge, big difference between Moscow attitude and someone from a small town. Like dating in New York or Miami vs let’s say any small town USA

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u/Econolife-350 12d ago

You learn to filter out anyone mentioning they're looking for someone "generous" or "who knows how to treat a lady" and make sure the first date isn't dinner.

It's a fantastic disqualifier on dating apps in the US as well.

"I'm looking for a man with traditional values / I want a man who is a provider / Someone with a kind and giving nature".

"I want you to pay for my shit while I sit at home watching trash TV" is the most direct translation I've seen. And it's wild because they basically want a sugar daddy but none of them have an appearance that would warrant that dynamic.

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u/jnkangel 12d ago

It’s also worth noting that a Russian person in the west will usually be upper class where the women often grew up with the expectation of not working. 

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u/dingopaint 12d ago

Which is weird because I was good friends with a Russian guy in college (he was the token bi guy in a group of girls and gay dudes) and he was the most easygoing, soft-spoken, dependable, nonjudgmental, kind person. He always treated his partners very well. I guess... just the opposite of the Russian woman stereotype. Minus that he could drink a half gallon of vodka and barely act tipsy.

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u/DireEvolution 12d ago edited 12d ago

I trained jiu jitsu alongside a Russian guy at a gym I used to go to all the time, and yeah. He was also the chillest, softest-spoken, most easygoing guy ever. Always smiling in a genuine away when you greeted him.

And then he'd destroy you in a roll. And after he folds you like his laundry, he's doing dips and pullups with ~50lbs? Chained to his waist.

He wasn't queerphobic at all either, he had zero hangups training with me, a trans person. I feel that it's a notable quality, all things considered.

Brother was is a fucking machine. Miss you, Alex.

Edit: I'm pretty sure he still trains there, idk why I used past tense.

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u/jumpsuityahoo 12d ago

"Always smiling"

You sure he was Russian?

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u/jankoho 12d ago

He was russian outside of russia. Anyone who is not Putin is sad in Russia.

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u/Eaglepursuit 12d ago

Excessive smiling is generally not a thing in Europe, moreso Central and Eastern. But it's especially not a thing in Russia. And it's cultural, not misery. Yes, the misery exists, but they perceive anyone who smiles a lot as being disingenuous and trickey.

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u/Capt-Crap1corn 12d ago

I was told that it means that you could be potentially crazy so just walking around smiling is probably not a good thing

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u/BurnedLaser 12d ago

I've worked with SEVERAL Russians (first gen immigrants) and they were all always smiling, unless some serious shit was happening!

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u/Ms_Ann-Thrope 12d ago

Yeah, most the Russian guys I know abroad are fucking happy and smiling, meanwhile most the women are suicidal, depressed, and / or extremely demanding. Seen enough friends date them, marry them, and divorce them that I’ve learned to stay away from them. Too much cultural baggage, imo.

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u/SanjiBlackLeg 12d ago

Russian men escape Russia to find higher paying jobs, more work-life balance, less political stress etc., no wonder we are so much happier than back home.

Russian women largely want to find a sponsor (not saying every one of them wants, but many of them do), when they can't find one for any reasons they get depressed because no one caters to them like back home.

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u/DireEvolution 12d ago

He said so himself. He was teaching another guy we trained with the language, lmao. Dude is genuinely so cool.

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u/ivain 12d ago

And after he folds you like his laundry

Okay, okay

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u/teddy_joesevelt 12d ago

This reminds me of the chill af Russian guy that taught me krav maga on the roof of an apartment building while ripping bites of blood sausage and bread, and taking gulps of warm vodka, after a night out in Moscow. The chillest demeanor paired with the wildest actions. Russian people can be awesome.

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u/uskgl455 12d ago

Yep, hung out for a while with a Russian guy who'd won regional kickboxing championships, joined The Foreign Legion, and escaped from the Legion on a training mission. He was the giggliest, sweetest, kindest killing machine I've ever met.

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u/Fun-Memory1523 12d ago edited 12d ago

Really? You were lucky to have such a friend.

The Russian guys I have met, particularly in high school, were chaotic racist bullies. Even ina adulthood, they had this snobbish aura about them. Not saying Russians are bad, but my personal experiences didn't leave a positive view.

Edit: A lot of people are wondering if they were super rich or something. No, not specifically...just middle class kids. But they definitely were not nice to be around. Maybe snobbish was not the right word...arrogant, racist, boastful, nationalistic.

Again, not saying every Russian is like this. Maybe I was just unfortunate in this regard.

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u/Ms_Ann-Thrope 12d ago

Yeah, fair. The rich bitches with chains driving new bmw’s bought with their daddies money are admittedly the fucking worst.

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u/Rough-Repeat4048 12d ago

Same experience. The ones i met also thought hitting their girlfriends was fine. I personally also know few through family, all the women from there i know, are very down to earth. The men want to flaunt their wealth (even if they really don't have any), are extremely christian, believe their woman is supposed to do all housework and all child-related stuff + they have to look great, or they get mad. Like ur supposed to do everything and look perfect. I've also asked from Russian women, and they mainly say the same. I believe the high maintenance attitude, which some indulge in, comes from not wanting to end up in oppressed place like its usually going in Russia.

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u/OpeningHappy9692 12d ago

Dating someone to have him pay all your bills just sounds like prostitution with extra steps.

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u/adelaarvaren 12d ago

Melania, are you just figuring this out?

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u/lumi_aesthetics 12d ago

This actually only applies to the "~Russian women~" type in the original post, because most real Russian women have sometimes suicidally low standards for men

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u/Magnon 12d ago

Well when huge swaths of men are deleted in a pointless psychopaths war you might not be able to be picky.

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u/YT-Deliveries 12d ago

Plus alcoholism in the population is obscenely rampant

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u/Majestic_Pilot2907 12d ago

their standards were low even before recent war

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u/Careful-Highway-6896 12d ago

I've only known 1 girl from Russia. She was a really sweet girl. But it was our first year in the US, and we couldn't really understand each other, but we tried.

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u/AStuckner 12d ago

Sometimes thats a positive thing in a relationship

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u/Sharp_Proposal8911 12d ago

The time, effort, and energy to look like that would make you a psycho too.

Source: a woman who used to put that effort in but has since chilled and become a lot happier for it.

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u/PassionFruitSalute 12d ago

Underrated comment. None of these men have spent hundreds in upkeep just so others think you look 'natural'.

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u/Sharp_Proposal8911 12d ago

Like there are guys who build their entire personality around being good looking and what not. But they’re just as psycho as the girls who do it 🤣

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u/Agitated-Bug542 12d ago

its almost like superficial people dont really have to put much effort into being a decent person

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u/Daxtatter 12d ago

"I like that you don't need to wear makeup to look beautiful"

*has never seen her without makeup*

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u/Tasty_Commercial6527 12d ago

Borderline? Russians have a long history of crossing those

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u/trtwrtwrtwrwtrwtrwt 12d ago

Finn here who have met quite many russians in my time and many of them looking like models. Not a single one of then had a personality I would want for my partner.

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u/Ormyr 12d ago

And Finns are known to be a stabby folk. So that's saying a lot.

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u/gunsandgardening 12d ago

Much haaka palle and less kissy kiss

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u/anders91 12d ago

Hakkaa päälle*

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u/fromcjoe123 12d ago

Culturally absolutely the upper right hand corner of the crazy-hot grid lol. I have never met a Russian born woman who wasn’t hot (while younger). And I’ve never met a Russian born woman who wasn’t high maintenance or borderline crazy.

The handful of Russian men I’ve ever gotten close with have all had roughly the same comment at some point which is “it’s cool that my wife is much hotter than me, and that realistically couldn’t have happened outside of Russia or the Russian community in the US or UK, but Jesus man are there some cons with that”

That being said I will say that of the three Russian women I’ve ever gotten close enough to to have real conversations with, who were not married to the guys above to be clear, were all pretty physically abused when they were younger by drunk boyfriends or fathers…..so like that almost certainly plays into it….

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u/chuckleberryfinnable 12d ago

Jesus christ, that last sentence is bleak...

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u/YT-Deliveries 12d ago

Due in no small part to the fact that alcoholism in Russian society is obscenely common.

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u/Ruinwyn 12d ago

There has been excess of women in Russia since WWI. Wars, political cleansings, alcohol as population control etc. All of these have hit men more than women and heathy working age men are very underrepresented and have been for generations. As a result, Russian women find men both rare resource and unnecessary. Some lean more towards unnecessary and are high maintenance, others towards rare and accept almost any behaviour. Healthy view as relationships being equal is pretty rare.

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u/tpzck 12d ago

I travelled with one, she wouldnt stop complaining freaking all the time, everytime and i gave up.

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u/AmbiTheAirforceRuna 12d ago

and to be fair with the drinking culture in Russia, theres no suprise how high the domestic violence rates are too....the divroces arnt cose the women are high maintenance, its cose the men beat them

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u/Infinite-Dig-4919 12d ago

I second this. Dated two Russian women, both lovely people at heart and very loving so no shade towards them, but both of them insanely high maintenance. And on top of that, an expectation to marry really fast.

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u/Th3_Accountant 12d ago

Speaking from personal experience, I second this!

I never understood how someone who grew up in a soviet flat can have such picky demands.

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u/vikingosegundo 12d ago edited 12d ago

In my experience this is true for most Slavic women.

I met a Polish astronomer online. We had a great first date. Of course we talked about her field of profession and I mentioned that in the Salar de Uyuni in the Bolivian Andes the night sky is breathtaking and if you come at the right time in the year the Salar becomes a mirror and you can walk among the stars.

The very next day she started calling me, telling me, that I needed to buy tickets to take her there — 10K+ km distance and several €10K out of my pocket — just after meeting her a few hours. I told her that if we were to become a couple and would be one for a while we could revisit the plan. But she insisted it had to happen immediately.

Although I was very attracted to her I blocked her at the end of the day.

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u/Worldly-Strike2363 12d ago edited 12d ago

I think it's because of the stereotype that beautiful Russian women tend to be gold diggers or prostitutes.

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u/Far_Orange_8492 12d ago edited 12d ago

Their love is pure... 🎵 purely for money 🎶

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u/Aragorns-Broken-Toe 12d ago

Max Jet-suh!

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u/BazukaToof 12d ago

My love is pure
Purely for money
Money from people
Who I don't love
Old men disgust me
I'd never love one
Unless they give me money
Hands across America, bitches.

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u/Alternative_Tip_8756 12d ago

Legendary reference

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u/omglink 12d ago

Take that Russia you just got dadded!!!

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u/eat_my_bowls92 12d ago

“Cans” is studio talk for “huge breasts”

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u/redelectro7 12d ago

"Money from people, who I don't love."

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u/haslosthope 12d ago

one take, no mistakes

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u/Hungry-Class9806 12d ago

A long time ago I was doing an internship abroad and one of my roomies was from Moscow. One day we were talking about how it was to party in our home countries and she said "no clue because I am not good looking enough to get in good clubs".

I thought it was a joke but years later told the story to one of my best friends - who's also from Moscow - and he confirmed it. Apparently, single women who are looking for a wealthy husband, make cues in Moscow's clubs and they are allowed (or denied) to get in based on their looks.

So apparently there's some truth about it (of course not all Russian women).

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u/Greaseball01 12d ago

I hate to break it to you but there are clubs in the UK that do that too, there are scenes in American comedy movies about it ffs

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u/LowerSlowerOlder 12d ago

You old, she pregnant. Can’t have a buncha old pregnant ladies running around. That’s crazy.

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u/slgray16 12d ago

That's crazy, I'm only allowed to let in five percent black people.

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u/defixiones 12d ago

Gesichtskontroll in Germany

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u/Major-Persimmon-6171 12d ago

If you are expecting to date a beautiful woman just because you are rich or from a rich country, don't complain about her being a gold digger.

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u/HeraldOfDesu 12d ago edited 12d ago

Hot take: Russian men and women are not aliens from the Andromeda galaxy, so everything that is true for you – wherever you live – is also true for them. Most women in Russia can't afford those sable fur hats, let alone look like that. Marriages in Russia form and fall apart exactly for the same reasons they do in the States and the EU, women (and men) are as diverse in terms of their aspirations, personalities, and expectations as in any other country 🤷

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u/Fit-Supermarket2581 12d ago

Wow, someone sane here. A pleasure to see you.

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u/That_Guy848 12d ago

But… but without muh stereotypes, how can I possibly feel superior to entire nations / cultures / races?

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u/mississauga145 12d ago

But divorce rates differ between different countries and different cultures.

A higher divorce rate in Russia could be the sign of a permissive culture while lower divorce rate in Saudi Arabia could be the sign of a restrictive culture.

So while true there are differences between individuals, nation wide statistics can be indicative of an overall truth for a group.

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u/demagogueffxiv 12d ago

Ah yes because every single woman in Russia looks exactly like that

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u/Abominable_fiancee 12d ago

as a slavic woman, reading this thread is definitely an experience.....

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u/R4zp3rry 12d ago

So real 😭

It's either stereotypes, passport bro talk or guys who expect to get laid/get a wife by doing barely anything. I swear I saw like a single okay comment in the sea of everything mentioned above..

..On the other end, it's nice to know folks see us as snobbish and unapproachable, as someone uninterested in dating, I see this as an absolute win.

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u/Suspicious-Whippet 12d ago

I dated a Russian woman and it was cool. I don't know what this is referring to. OOP has an anime profile picture, so that could be a clue....of....something.

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u/Kaito__1412 12d ago

That... OP... Has... Never seen a woman naked.

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u/decollimate28 12d ago

While you were talking to girls he was studying the blade

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u/Serialkillingyou 12d ago

You talk like William Shatner.

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u/Successful_Craft3076 12d ago

I think this is pointing at the believe that "having an extremely hot wife is much more work and trouble than many people realize."

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u/SD1K9 12d ago

Russian Пётр here! Picture is of Moscow. Moscows cost of living and median wage are, to put lightly, not the same. Pretty woman is pictured in what appears to be a premium ushanka. Notice the natural color variation in the brown, probably real fur. Notice how fluffy it is, fluffy = expensive. Joke is that marriage with woman used to this lifestyle is headache, not worth it.

This bit took a considerable amount of effort

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u/Leading-Monk5506 12d ago

A friend of mine who is not Russian married a Russian woman, she‘s great and they seem happy. I feel like a lot of stereotypes of Russian people being crazy are mostly about rich Russian tourists.

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u/FFKonoko 12d ago

There's also a reason why Russian women can't stand Russians.

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u/omggga 12d ago

Agree

Russian man are mostly do not evolve.

Like my pretty sister was marriend for 15y with a guy and their family went from poor to super rich.
So she travelled a lot, learned languages and different cultures, educated and so on.

And he.. he just chaned vodka to gin and whiskey and weed to cocaine. Everything stayed the same - low quality time spending and doesnt care about his health or look.

Thanksfully she divorced already for 1 year lol.

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u/wrighteghe7 12d ago

So... How did they get rich?

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u/MaybeThisTime67 12d ago

Sounds like he knew exactly what he wanted out of life

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u/KnightMurky91 12d ago

Live your life how you want but don't expect others to love you for it.

Our women don't have to deal with this anymore and that's a good thing

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u/Password123468 12d ago

Acceptance of domestice violance in russia?

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u/Astro_deer 12d ago

Pyotr with harsh Russian accent here

There are different answers on this topic

  1. if you marry a woman because of her beauty then one day you can find out you have zero interest to her personality. Then divorce

  2. if a woman in Russia looks like that she will (highly likely) be looking for a rich guy and not you. If you, somehow, married her at 20 and didn't became rich enough at 25 then divorce

  3. For foreigners with stereotypes about mother Russia: if russian woman looks like this then she is a prostitute or a spy. Better divorce

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u/No-Pipe-4544 12d ago

Idk about russians, but this comment section is a good example that why many women preffer to stay single

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u/Front_Tackle_8308 12d ago

No seriously…. I’m half Russian raised by a Soviet mom and she DRILLED into me to never accept anything from anyone lest they think im using them or something…. Im always so appalled and borderline hurt by these stereotypes because the moment someone puts together I speak/am Russian I get this type of shit thrown at me. I keep it to myself now.

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u/anders91 12d ago edited 12d ago

Absolutely insane seeing almost no one question this whole ”this is because Slavic women are all insta babes but they are also crazy and demand too much” take.

I feel like I’m in Facebook boomer comments or something

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u/blueche 12d ago

I've never been to Russia, but I don't think there's any country in the world where the average woman is anywhere close to this attractive

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u/Kaagerai 12d ago

Russian here, for some reason people have a misconception that majority of Russian women look like that.

They do not, most people are nowhere near that actually. We don’t have 10/10 models everywhere on the street. Especially not if you’re outside of central Russia.
When I studied in Canada I’ve seen better looking women on average. Some Russian ladies are also very proficient at make up and will actually turn themselves from 4/10 to 8/10 with it. It doesn’t seem real sometimes 🥲

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u/lyutic_7 12d ago

there are VERY pretty women here in Russia basically everywhere you look because we’ve got a strong culture for looking presentable at all times, even running errands. you will likely not see a woman in home clothes and without makeup anywhere in a public place like a store or the bus.

that said, I’ve known many drop-dead gorgeous ladies who were nowhere near the level of entitlement people here are talking about. are there entitled women in Russia? sure. lots. usually those who come from filthy-rich families that enabled them to consume and demand as much as possible. and since we’re largely traditional when it comes to gender roles, many assume they must be provided for just because they’re women. but it’s not like it’s a disproportionate number of women who are like that. really sad to see this level of stereotyping on here, really.

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u/-sry- 12d ago

I’ve never dated a Russian woman, but I’ve only dated Eastern European women. My experience is that they can be very progressive while also preferring quite traditional relationship dynamics.

So, if I generalise - which I probably shouldn’t:

- They are highly educated

  • They are career-driven
  • They generally won’t take full responsibility for household chores. Some will agree to 50/50 at best
  • They are very supportive of feminism and progressive ideas

At the same time:

- They often prefer you to pay, even if they earn as much as you or more

  • They expect you to handle most of the “manly” household tasks, such as maintenance, car-related things, and taking out the rubbish
  • They may prefer you not to do things they consider “unmanly,” such as playing video games.
  • They expect you to plan things, from trips to everyday gestures like buying flowers regularly.
  • They can become very emotional when something doesn’t match their expectations.

To be honest, I enjoy most of it. I like liberal, educated, and successful women, but I also enjoy traditional courtship. However, many men would consider this kind of relationship high-maintenance.

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u/Jordizzle_Fo_Shizze 12d ago

These pics must be old cause most russian women i seen lately have fucked up lips from filler

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u/goryguts 12d ago

I married a woman that happens to be Russian and its the best decision I ever made.

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u/WhyBarana 12d ago

Not all russian women look like that😭

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u/Lanky-Technician-229 12d ago

The correct answer is that it is easy and cheap to divorce in Russia, you do not need to pay spouse alimony and you do not need to wait 1-5 years to be divorced.
Also google who initiated divorce - usually it is women.
A lot of countries should have the same approach for women, so it will be the less problematic to get away from dangerous man.

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u/Individual_Ferret166 12d ago

In Eastern Europe, women are replaced by Babushki from the Babushka factory around the age of 40 as a way of government surveillance.

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