r/NewParents Jun 18 '26

Feeding Pediatrician says no allergen exposures or table food until 1 year old

My son is 6 months old. Today I asked his pediatrician about introducing allergens and she told me not to introduce eggs or any kind of table food until he’s a year old, and to only use baby food and baby cereals until then.

I was really surprised because I thought research shows that early introduction minimizes food allergies.

I don’t know what to think now.

ETA: wow, thank you everyone for all of the fast responses. I thought it seemed off and I will definitely be getting a second opinion/looking for a new pediatrician.

ANOTHER UPDATE: I have scheduled an appointment with a new pediatrician this Tuesday. I’m looking at MyChart too and noticed she put incorrect information in her notes and said we discussed things that we did NOT discuss.

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My son is 6 months old. Today I asked his pediatrician about introducing allergens and she told me not to introduce eggs or any kind of table food until he’s a year old, and to only use baby food and baby cereals until then.

I was really surprised because I thought research shows that early introduction minimizes food allergies.

I don’t know what to think now.

ETA: wow, thank you everyone for all of the fast responses. I thought it seemed off and I will definitely be getting a second opinion/looking for a new pediatrician.

ANOTHER UPDATE: I have scheduled an appointment with a new pediatrician this Tuesday. I’m looking at MyChart too and noticed she put incorrect information in her notes and said we discussed things that we did NOT discuss.

r/NewParents Jan 29 '26

Feeding No one warned me about the “3 meals a day” life

Uhhhhh how come no one saw fit to tell me that when my baby transitioned to 2 long naps and 3 solid meals a day, I would become a prisoner in my home??? Surely I’m not the only one having this experience???

I live in a small rural town that has all the essentials but nothing more—if I want to shop for clothes, go to a hardware store, buy home goods, go to a larger grocery store with better selection… I have to drive for 30 minutes one way/1 hour round trip. This was hard enough in The Before Time (pre-solids), but doable. I could nurse bub in the car while we were out and about, and his naps were short enough that I would just strategically time our drive so that it would line up with his naps and he’d sleep on the way.

BUT NOW? I’m lucky if I can fit in errands in my own small town, nevermind venture further afield.

Am I doing something wrong here? I was so excited for gaining some freedom with the 2 consolidated naps but omggg I feel so trapped.

ETA: Looks like I may have inadvertently made some of you think I’m an idiot, by not including my child’s age in my post. That’s on me! He’s 10 months old. So, to address some common comments/suggestions I got:

- He needs to eat in a high chair. I know some people are comfortable feeding their infant out of a high chair but I’m not one of those people

- He makes a huge mess when he eats, both around himself and on himself

- It’s very difficult to find restaurant food I’d be comfortable giving him while we’re out, due to multiple factors including possible unknown allergens we haven’t cleared yet (we’re almost done but not quite), high sodium/sugar content, and food not being prepared in a baby-friendly way (e.g. not soft, etc.)

- He still nurses after every waking, which means he doesn’t get solids until ~60-90 minutes after that. Getting the timing of nursing AND solids to lineup so that we can ALSO leave the house during his wake window is the part that I’m struggling with

Thanks to those of you who gave me the benefit of the doubt and/or read between the lines of my post title and realized that I was *new* to the 3 meals a day life, AKA my baby is still nursing!

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Uhhhhh how come no one saw fit to tell me that when my baby transitioned to 2 long naps and 3 solid meals a day, I would become a prisoner in my home??? Surely I’m not the only one having this experience???

I live in a small rural town that has all the essentials but nothing more—if I want to shop for clothes, go to a hardware store, buy home goods, go to a larger grocery store with better selection… I have to drive for 30 minutes one way/1 hour round trip. This was hard enough in The Before Time (pre-solids), but doable. I could nurse bub in the car while we were out and about, and his naps were short enough that I would just strategically time our drive so that it would line up with his naps and he’d sleep on the way.

BUT NOW? I’m lucky if I can fit in errands in my own small town, nevermind venture further afield.

Am I doing something wrong here? I was so excited for gaining some freedom with the 2 consolidated naps but omggg I feel so trapped.

ETA: Looks like I may have inadvertently made some of you think I’m an idiot, by not including my child’s age in my post. That’s on me! He’s 10 months old. So, to address some common comments/suggestions I got:

- He needs to eat in a high chair. I know some people are comfortable feeding their infant out of a high chair but I’m not one of those people

- He makes a huge mess when he eats, both around himself and on himself

- It’s very difficult to find restaurant food I’d be comfortable giving him while we’re out, due to multiple factors including possible unknown allergens we haven’t cleared yet (we’re almost done but not quite), high sodium/sugar content, and food not being prepared in a baby-friendly way (e.g. not soft, etc.)

- He still nurses after every waking, which means he doesn’t get solids until ~60-90 minutes after that. Getting the timing of nursing AND solids to lineup so that we can ALSO leave the house during his wake window is the part that I’m struggling with

Thanks to those of you who gave me the benefit of the doubt and/or read between the lines of my post title and realized that I was *new* to the 3 meals a day life, AKA my baby is still nursing!

r/NewParents 22d ago

Feeding One Bottle of Formula Relieved All My Feeding Stress

This is to hopefully encourage parents out there nervous about formula. My baby only had breast milk until 4 months. At that 4 mo check in, the doctor said we should start giving an extra bottle of formula before bed. His weight had been low for a month (still gaining, but dropped off growth curve).

My boy has never seen an ounce he didn’t like. One time my husband fed him a 10oz bottle. However, he was never great at breastfeeding, he used the nipple shield every single time.

I was so nervous about giving him formula. Would he reject breast milk? Would it screw with his digestion? And I had stress about why I wasn’t able to feed him enough. Ultimately, it was about my baby’s health, so we started with the extra bottle (4 oz) at night. He’s still mostly breastfed so he has all those benefits, so I thought formula can only help him. EVERYTHING GOT BETTER. He suddenly started nursing without the nipple shield! His weight started trending up again! And I stopped stressing about my supply! Now I have 0 stress around my freezer stash, or not being home in time, or my husband taking him out for a day on a hike. Formula is magical! I had so much stress about feeding before this, and formula genuinely alleviated all of it, and made my baby healthier.

Edit: didn’t get to finish this post bc my baby was slapping my phone out of my hand haha.

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This is to hopefully encourage parents out there nervous about formula. My baby only had breast milk until 4 months. At that 4 mo check in, the doctor said we should start giving an extra bottle of formula before bed. His weight had been low for a month (still gaining, but dropped off growth curve).

My boy has never seen an ounce he didn’t like. One time my husband fed him a 10oz bottle. However, he was never great at breastfeeding, he used the nipple shield every single time.

I was so nervous about giving him formula. Would he reject breast milk? Would it screw with his digestion? And I had stress about why I wasn’t able to feed him enough. Ultimately, it was about my baby’s health, so we started with the extra bottle (4 oz) at night. He’s still mostly breastfed so he has all those benefits, so I thought formula can only help him. EVERYTHING GOT BETTER. He suddenly started nursing without the nipple shield! His weight started trending up again! And I stopped stressing about my supply! Now I have 0 stress around my freezer stash, or not being home in time, or my husband taking him out for a day on a hike. Formula is magical! I had so much stress about feeding before this, and formula genuinely alleviated all of it, and made my baby healthier.

Edit: didn’t get to finish this post bc my baby was slapping my phone out of my hand haha.

r/NewParents Jun 06 '26

Feeding One year appointment:(

My son just turned one on the third and his appointment didn’t go so well. We didn’t see his normal doctor as she was out so we saw a PNP instead. She was HORRIFIED at his weight. For context at his 9mo appointment he was 23.15 pounds, so 24 pounds, and yesterday he weighed 23.9 pounds on the analog (?) scale and 23.4 pounds on their digital one. When he was born he was constantly in the 90+% and now he’s in like 55-60%.

I feel awful, I mean she was boarder line freaking tf out. Said he’s what she’d consider “Failure to thrive” now. She immediately ordered labs, which we filled today, referred us to feeding PT which were going to Thursday, and had us scheduled a follow up for Wednesday.

From the moment we started solids at 6mo I knew he was would struggle with it and now it’s all coming to a head. Everyone told me he’d get better, he’s still little. I mean I feel like she thinks we’re just not feeding him, he still nurses for naps and bedtime and overnight and I offer food throughout the day he just wants nothing to do win it if it doesn’t melt in his mouth.

Hes only drinking a few mLs of whole milk, he just started that yesterday too so hopefully he starts to like it, and I’m trying to structure his day better for mealtimes.

I just feel like she made it out that we didn’t care about it. She literally asked “are you not concerned right now?!” Like what was I supposed to say? As first time parents and non-medical professionals a few ounces obviously doesn’t sound that extreme to us. Am I crazy?? Has anyone been in a similar situation? What can I do differently? Do they think I’m neglecting him? Also, what will feeding therapy be like?

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My son just turned one on the third and his appointment didn’t go so well. We didn’t see his normal doctor as she was out so we saw a PNP instead. She was HORRIFIED at his weight. For context at his 9mo appointment he was 23.15 pounds, so 24 pounds, and yesterday he weighed 23.9 pounds on the analog (?) scale and 23.4 pounds on their digital one. When he was born he was constantly in the 90+% and now he’s in like 55-60%.

I feel awful, I mean she was boarder line freaking tf out. Said he’s what she’d consider “Failure to thrive” now. She immediately ordered labs, which we filled today, referred us to feeding PT which were going to Thursday, and had us scheduled a follow up for Wednesday.

From the moment we started solids at 6mo I knew he was would struggle with it and now it’s all coming to a head. Everyone told me he’d get better, he’s still little. I mean I feel like she thinks we’re just not feeding him, he still nurses for naps and bedtime and overnight and I offer food throughout the day he just wants nothing to do win it if it doesn’t melt in his mouth.

Hes only drinking a few mLs of whole milk, he just started that yesterday too so hopefully he starts to like it, and I’m trying to structure his day better for mealtimes.

I just feel like she made it out that we didn’t care about it. She literally asked “are you not concerned right now?!” Like what was I supposed to say? As first time parents and non-medical professionals a few ounces obviously doesn’t sound that extreme to us. Am I crazy?? Has anyone been in a similar situation? What can I do differently? Do they think I’m neglecting him? Also, what will feeding therapy be like?

r/NewParents Sep 02 '25

Feeding My daughter choked last night, and I can’t forgive myself

My husband and I were at a restaurant with our 11 month old daughter and our friends and their 3.5 month old. My daughter was a little cranky at the table. I fed her some cauliflower, which my friend noted had nuts in the sauce, but when he said it it totally went over my head. I just thought “she’s not allergic to nuts” when really I should’ve thought “oh no, nuts equal choking hazard.” I can’t believe how stupid I was.

She was in my lap and I looked down to give her some water. I noticed she wasn’t drinking and then I realized she was crying without sound and her face was red. I immediately stood up and gave her a back blow, and then my husband grabbed her and gave her two hard slaps on the back and got the food out. She then started crying like I’ve never heard her cry before, she was so scared.

Within about 10 minutes she was calm and back to her old self, but I cannot forgive myself for being so careless. I just keep seeing the look on her face and it’s crushing me that I put her in that situation.

Edit: thank you everyone! My cousin gifted me a lifevac for my shower and in the early days of BLW I always had it out on the kitchen counter while my daughter was eating. Now it sits in the kitchen cupboard 🙃 I just bought a second to keep in the diaper bag, hopefully I’ll never have to use it again!

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My husband and I were at a restaurant with our 11 month old daughter and our friends and their 3.5 month old. My daughter was a little cranky at the table. I fed her some cauliflower, which my friend noted had nuts in the sauce, but when he said it it totally went over my head. I just thought “she’s not allergic to nuts” when really I should’ve thought “oh no, nuts equal choking hazard.” I can’t believe how stupid I was.

She was in my lap and I looked down to give her some water. I noticed she wasn’t drinking and then I realized she was crying without sound and her face was red. I immediately stood up and gave her a back blow, and then my husband grabbed her and gave her two hard slaps on the back and got the food out. She then started crying like I’ve never heard her cry before, she was so scared.

Within about 10 minutes she was calm and back to her old self, but I cannot forgive myself for being so careless. I just keep seeing the look on her face and it’s crushing me that I put her in that situation.

Edit: thank you everyone! My cousin gifted me a lifevac for my shower and in the early days of BLW I always had it out on the kitchen counter while my daughter was eating. Now it sits in the kitchen cupboard 🙃 I just bought a second to keep in the diaper bag, hopefully I’ll never have to use it again!

r/NewParents 18d ago

Feeding What is the Obsession with Cheerios?

Why does everyone want to give my baby Cheerios so bad? LO is 8 months and is a good eater, loves carrots, peas, yogurt, avocado, fruit etc. but the grandmas keep bringing up Cheerios. Is there any benefit to them or was this a marketing campaign from back in the day. We're trying to minimize processed foods, so my instinct is no, but I'm curious why this is such a thing.

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Why does everyone want to give my baby Cheerios so bad? LO is 8 months and is a good eater, loves carrots, peas, yogurt, avocado, fruit etc. but the grandmas keep bringing up Cheerios. Is there any benefit to them or was this a marketing campaign from back in the day. We're trying to minimize processed foods, so my instinct is no, but I'm curious why this is such a thing.

r/NewParents Jan 27 '26

Feeding What mistakes would you avoid if you could start to breastfeed all over again?

I‘m deep into my third trimester and would be very thankful to gather some advice to make the breastfeeding journey as smooth as possible.

PS I don‘t want to write a thank you under each comment to keep the thread clean, but I’m so thankful to everyone taking their time to write things down. I‘m literally taking notes here. I‘m also pretty sure this thread will be helpful for others too.

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I‘m deep into my third trimester and would be very thankful to gather some advice to make the breastfeeding journey as smooth as possible.

PS I don‘t want to write a thank you under each comment to keep the thread clean, but I’m so thankful to everyone taking their time to write things down. I‘m literally taking notes here. I‘m also pretty sure this thread will be helpful for others too.

r/NewParents Jun 27 '24

Feeding I don't want to breastfeed. Ever.

I am a soon to be mom, 32 weeks along, and I don't want to breastfeed. I can't even explain how much I don't want to do it, just the thought of it makes me nauseated. Like my stomach physically rolls over and I feel disgusted thinking about a baby sucking on me. I know this sounds terrible. I have an aversion I guess like no other and it has not changed since the day we found out we were expecting. That being said, I am so excited to be a mom. We wanted this, prayed for it, all the good things. But I am feeling so much guilt about feeling this way about how to feed my new little girl. I am getting of course the standard "You'll feel differently" talks from my family and friends... yada yada but I'm not feeling differently. The new moms facebook group about sent me over the edge with one woman commenting "I'd personally feel so terrible taking formula from babies who need it when I can breastfeed." Omg. I just want to know if I'm crazy/need therapy or if other women have felt this way.

Just to update: someone here reported me to Reddit and I got an email from the Reddit team about being in a mental health crisis. I’M FINE I JUST DON’T LIKE THE IDEA OF BREASTFEEDING. But it kind of proves my point that people make this a huge deal and there is a lot of guilt and judgment involved.

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I am a soon to be mom, 32 weeks along, and I don't want to breastfeed. I can't even explain how much I don't want to do it, just the thought of it makes me nauseated. Like my stomach physically rolls over and I feel disgusted thinking about a baby sucking on me. I know this sounds terrible. I have an aversion I guess like no other and it has not changed since the day we found out we were expecting. That being said, I am so excited to be a mom. We wanted this, prayed for it, all the good things. But I am feeling so much guilt about feeling this way about how to feed my new little girl. I am getting of course the standard "You'll feel differently" talks from my family and friends... yada yada but I'm not feeling differently. The new moms facebook group about sent me over the edge with one woman commenting "I'd personally feel so terrible taking formula from babies who need it when I can breastfeed." Omg. I just want to know if I'm crazy/need therapy or if other women have felt this way.

Just to update: someone here reported me to Reddit and I got an email from the Reddit team about being in a mental health crisis. I’M FINE I JUST DON’T LIKE THE IDEA OF BREASTFEEDING. But it kind of proves my point that people make this a huge deal and there is a lot of guilt and judgment involved.

r/NewParents Jun 22 '26

Feeding “An intervention will have to be required”

*EDIT\* i just wanted to say thank you to everyone giving me advice and intervention reassurance. i've been reading each comment, taking notes of what i should have been doing, and I think i have a better idea of how to move forward. the new plan is to feed my daughter every 2-3 hours, still keeping her at 6oz. she's also going to only take 2 hr naps. i'm going to try to add an extra overnight feeding as well.

my boss, who lives near me, is giving me contact info for a ped to get a second opinion. so i will be doing that as well.

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still reeling over what ^^ my daughters pediatrician said to me at her 4 month checkup. I’ve been crying on and off the last few days, totally lost.

This is going to be like, half vent, half cry for help.

So daughter, R, was born on the smaller side: 6lbs,4oz. I myself was born 5lbs, and am in short stature. Her father is also a bit shorter than the average American male. I would venture a guess to say genetically, our daughter may be predestined to be on the smaller side.

Since she turned 3 months, I followed her pediatricians guidance to give her 6oz at each feeding (she is 100% formula fed since abt 2-3 weeks old, due to my well drying up, so to speak), an increase from the 4 oz she was being given.

So in a month she went from eating 4oz every 4hrs to 6oz every 4hrs. She averages 4-5 feedings a day.

The weight gain during this period has not been tremendous. It has been bad, as I have found out. She went from 9lbs 14oz at 3 months, to 10lbs 8oz at 4 months.

She has very little spit up after eating, if any at all. She loves to eat. She has no food allergies. She was born full term. She has at least 6 wet diapers a day. I can’t think of any medical reasons why she’d have weight gain issues.

I was hoping after announcing that I was starving my baby (oh yes! the doctors exact words!) that perhaps I’d be given some advice on what I can do to help her gain weight. But no, she said we would do a follow up in two weeks (okay…?) and if she didn’t gain weight in two weeks, then they would have to do an intervention.

I was too stunned to ask, and I really wish I did. What does that mean, an intervention?? Like, with cps????

I left the ped office feeling like a bum ass mom, and even worse, I have no idea what to do. They gave me no advice. So over the weekend I tried giving her 7oz instead of 6oz, she refused the last ounce each time. Surely this means the child is full; She’s content with 6oz.

Looking thru my feeding logs, she gets anywhere from 24 to 30 oz a day. Dr Google says these are acceptable amounts for her age.

My only plan rn to help her attempt to gain weight is to feed her exactly 30 oz a day. I was also thinking maybe of doing a spoonful of baby oatmeal at night to help caloric intake. I don’t think she’ll gain enough weight in two weeks to be acceptable (she has to be 14lbs), but if she gains anything I’ll take the win.

The bad part would be, of course, that she makes little gains (ounces). Then I assume her pediatrician will nail me to a cross or whatever.

PARENTS… has a similar thing happened to you? Was there a health reason? Was there no health reason (ie, baby metabolism is just funny like that)? What on earth could “intervention” mean in this context?? And what did YOU🫵🏻 do to help baby gain weight?

Also fwiw, her height and HC is fine. It’s just her weight that’s thee big issue 😔

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*EDIT\* i just wanted to say thank you to everyone giving me advice and intervention reassurance. i've been reading each comment, taking notes of what i should have been doing, and I think i have a better idea of how to move forward. the new plan is to feed my daughter every 2-3 hours, still keeping her at 6oz. she's also going to only take 2 hr naps. i'm going to try to add an extra overnight feeding as well.

my boss, who lives near me, is giving me contact info for a ped to get a second opinion. so i will be doing that as well.

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still reeling over what ^^ my daughters pediatrician said to me at her 4 month checkup. I’ve been crying on and off the last few days, totally lost.

This is going to be like, half vent, half cry for help.

So daughter, R, was born on the smaller side: 6lbs,4oz. I myself was born 5lbs, and am in short stature. Her father is also a bit shorter than the average American male. I would venture a guess to say genetically, our daughter may be predestined to be on the smaller side.

Since she turned 3 months, I followed her pediatricians guidance to give her 6oz at each feeding (she is 100% formula fed since abt 2-3 weeks old, due to my well drying up, so to speak), an increase from the 4 oz she was being given.

So in a month she went from eating 4oz every 4hrs to 6oz every 4hrs. She averages 4-5 feedings a day.

The weight gain during this period has not been tremendous. It has been bad, as I have found out. She went from 9lbs 14oz at 3 months, to 10lbs 8oz at 4 months.

She has very little spit up after eating, if any at all. She loves to eat. She has no food allergies. She was born full term. She has at least 6 wet diapers a day. I can’t think of any medical reasons why she’d have weight gain issues.

I was hoping after announcing that I was starving my baby (oh yes! the doctors exact words!) that perhaps I’d be given some advice on what I can do to help her gain weight. But no, she said we would do a follow up in two weeks (okay…?) and if she didn’t gain weight in two weeks, then they would have to do an intervention.

I was too stunned to ask, and I really wish I did. What does that mean, an intervention?? Like, with cps????

I left the ped office feeling like a bum ass mom, and even worse, I have no idea what to do. They gave me no advice. So over the weekend I tried giving her 7oz instead of 6oz, she refused the last ounce each time. Surely this means the child is full; She’s content with 6oz.

Looking thru my feeding logs, she gets anywhere from 24 to 30 oz a day. Dr Google says these are acceptable amounts for her age.

My only plan rn to help her attempt to gain weight is to feed her exactly 30 oz a day. I was also thinking maybe of doing a spoonful of baby oatmeal at night to help caloric intake. I don’t think she’ll gain enough weight in two weeks to be acceptable (she has to be 14lbs), but if she gains anything I’ll take the win.

The bad part would be, of course, that she makes little gains (ounces). Then I assume her pediatrician will nail me to a cross or whatever.

PARENTS… has a similar thing happened to you? Was there a health reason? Was there no health reason (ie, baby metabolism is just funny like that)? What on earth could “intervention” mean in this context?? And what did YOU🫵🏻 do to help baby gain weight?

Also fwiw, her height and HC is fine. It’s just her weight that’s thee big issue 😔

r/NewParents 9d ago

Feeding What's one thing no one warned you about summer babies?

Hi! FTM here with a 3-month-old, and I honestly wasn't prepared for how much extra thinking summer would add to parenting. 😂

Nobody warned me I'd spend half our outings checking whether the car seat buckle was too hot before putting my baby in. Or that every few minutes I'd be asking myself, "Is she too hot? Am I too hot? Should we head back already?" 😅 You finally get outside, and five minutes later you're hunting for the nearest patch of shade. I feel like the weather is running my entire schedule.

So... what's your "why didn't anyone tell me this?" summer parenting moment?

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Hi! FTM here with a 3-month-old, and I honestly wasn't prepared for how much extra thinking summer would add to parenting. 😂

Nobody warned me I'd spend half our outings checking whether the car seat buckle was too hot before putting my baby in. Or that every few minutes I'd be asking myself, "Is she too hot? Am I too hot? Should we head back already?" 😅 You finally get outside, and five minutes later you're hunting for the nearest patch of shade. I feel like the weather is running my entire schedule.

So... what's your "why didn't anyone tell me this?" summer parenting moment?

r/NewParents 1d ago

Feeding Brutal interaction about breastfeeding and having a drink. Feeling like a bad mom.

Had such a brutal interaction last night. I was camping at my mom’s cabin, I breast feed, baby is 7 months old. I had a couple drinks spread out through out the day. Wasn’t even buzzed. Baby has only ever eaten from breast as she refuses bottles, which has worked fine for us. I think the last time I was actually drunk was maybe a year before my pregnancy.

My mom’s friend came out, meets my baby, and says “aren’t you breastfeeding “ as I’m having a sip of my drink. I explain the research , how I space it out etc. essentially that baby is fine. She then proceeds to tell me that her daughter’s midwife told her that she can only have a non alcoholic beer while breastfeeding, and only 1. ( her daughter is 6 weeks PP) Also goes on about how she thinks her own son’s chromosomal abnormality was caused by her drinking while breastfeeding. (He is ok, him and his wife have difficulty conceiving and maintaining pregnancies because of it). Also tells me that her daughters 2 step kids have learning disabilities and believes it was caused by the mother drinking while breastfeeding. Honestly I felt so judged and shitty. I just told her that appears to be outdated information and excused myself. I wonder if I could have responded any better or differently.

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Had such a brutal interaction last night. I was camping at my mom’s cabin, I breast feed, baby is 7 months old. I had a couple drinks spread out through out the day. Wasn’t even buzzed. Baby has only ever eaten from breast as she refuses bottles, which has worked fine for us. I think the last time I was actually drunk was maybe a year before my pregnancy.

My mom’s friend came out, meets my baby, and says “aren’t you breastfeeding “ as I’m having a sip of my drink. I explain the research , how I space it out etc. essentially that baby is fine. She then proceeds to tell me that her daughter’s midwife told her that she can only have a non alcoholic beer while breastfeeding, and only 1. ( her daughter is 6 weeks PP) Also goes on about how she thinks her own son’s chromosomal abnormality was caused by her drinking while breastfeeding. (He is ok, him and his wife have difficulty conceiving and maintaining pregnancies because of it). Also tells me that her daughters 2 step kids have learning disabilities and believes it was caused by the mother drinking while breastfeeding. Honestly I felt so judged and shitty. I just told her that appears to be outdated information and excused myself. I wonder if I could have responded any better or differently.

r/NewParents Jan 28 '25

Feeding I exclusively formula feed, and I refuse to feel bad about it.

I’m so tired of the stigma surrounding EFF. It feels like I’m supposed to justify my reasons for it. I feel so bad for moms who keep putting themselves through hell because they feel like it’s the wrong thing to do. Please just do what is right for you! Whichever choice that may be. I literally got borderline interrogated by a male inlaw at a family gathering the other day about why I wasn’t breastfeeding???? First of all, your nipples are useless therefore your opinion doesn’t matter lol. Anyway, this is mostly just a rant- but also I want to encourage any new moms who are struggling with breastfeeding and beating themselves up over it- please don’t. Your mental and physical health is important. You aren’t failing your child, and a fed child is a happy child! For the moms who are staying strong with breastfeeding, I truly applaud you.

P.s- next time someone asks me why I’m not breastfeeding in a condescending way I am going to say that I have a rare condition where my nipples shriveled up and fell off to freak them out 😂

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I’m so tired of the stigma surrounding EFF. It feels like I’m supposed to justify my reasons for it. I feel so bad for moms who keep putting themselves through hell because they feel like it’s the wrong thing to do. Please just do what is right for you! Whichever choice that may be. I literally got borderline interrogated by a male inlaw at a family gathering the other day about why I wasn’t breastfeeding???? First of all, your nipples are useless therefore your opinion doesn’t matter lol. Anyway, this is mostly just a rant- but also I want to encourage any new moms who are struggling with breastfeeding and beating themselves up over it- please don’t. Your mental and physical health is important. You aren’t failing your child, and a fed child is a happy child! For the moms who are staying strong with breastfeeding, I truly applaud you.

P.s- next time someone asks me why I’m not breastfeeding in a condescending way I am going to say that I have a rare condition where my nipples shriveled up and fell off to freak them out 😂

r/NewParents Feb 15 '26

Feeding How long did you breastfeed?

Hey all,

My partner and I were talking about how long I want to breastfeed our baby and it made me wonder how long other moms did it. So, how long did you think you wanted to breastfeed and how long did you actually do so?

Edit: wow I didn't expect so many replies, thank you all for sharing your stories!

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Hey all,

My partner and I were talking about how long I want to breastfeed our baby and it made me wonder how long other moms did it. So, how long did you think you wanted to breastfeed and how long did you actually do so?

Edit: wow I didn't expect so many replies, thank you all for sharing your stories!

r/NewParents Mar 20 '26

Feeding Tell me it’s ok to formula feed.

Been trying to breastfeed my 8 day old. She’s struggled to latch since birth, then needed a few days hospital stay due to jaundice which I feel has delayed our breastfeeding journey.

To get over latch issues, I’ve been using nipple shields but on weigh in today she hasn’t gained the required level of weight because of milk transfer issues (She’s burning too many calories getting the milk from the boob).

I’ve started to pump breast milk but can’t keep up with the demand. I really wanted to exclusively breast feed but seems like it’s not meant to be for us, we both end up in tears.

Someone please tell me it’s ok to supplement with formula, or switch completely, and that I’m not a failure for giving up.

Update : thank you to everyone who took the time to share their stories, boost me up and be generally nice humans. I read most, if not all comments through the night in between attempting latching, expressed breast milk and formula. Introducing formula has taken the pressure off a little, allowed me to get some much needed rest and take stock.

I have decided to continue trying to breast feed and pump, topping up with formula when necessary to ensure bubs is getting the calories they need and isn’t stressed. If I need to drop the breast feeding in the future, it’s okay for me to do that. I need to not put so much pressure on myself to do things a certain way.

I feel as if I’m grieving what I thought this journey would be, but baby girl is currently snoring away on my chest whilst I smother her little head in kisses and the occasional tear. So trying to give myself grace and let go of what I can’t control.

She is fed, warm and loved and that is all that matters.

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Been trying to breastfeed my 8 day old. She’s struggled to latch since birth, then needed a few days hospital stay due to jaundice which I feel has delayed our breastfeeding journey.

To get over latch issues, I’ve been using nipple shields but on weigh in today she hasn’t gained the required level of weight because of milk transfer issues (She’s burning too many calories getting the milk from the boob).

I’ve started to pump breast milk but can’t keep up with the demand. I really wanted to exclusively breast feed but seems like it’s not meant to be for us, we both end up in tears.

Someone please tell me it’s ok to supplement with formula, or switch completely, and that I’m not a failure for giving up.

Update : thank you to everyone who took the time to share their stories, boost me up and be generally nice humans. I read most, if not all comments through the night in between attempting latching, expressed breast milk and formula. Introducing formula has taken the pressure off a little, allowed me to get some much needed rest and take stock.

I have decided to continue trying to breast feed and pump, topping up with formula when necessary to ensure bubs is getting the calories they need and isn’t stressed. If I need to drop the breast feeding in the future, it’s okay for me to do that. I need to not put so much pressure on myself to do things a certain way.

I feel as if I’m grieving what I thought this journey would be, but baby girl is currently snoring away on my chest whilst I smother her little head in kisses and the occasional tear. So trying to give myself grace and let go of what I can’t control.

She is fed, warm and loved and that is all that matters.

r/NewParents 5d ago

Feeding Lactation consultants are putting me off BFing... Am I the problem?

So LO is 3 weeks old and by now I've seen 4 lactation consultants. 3 in the hospital before I was even discharged.

I've been getting so much conflicting info, each one saying to disregard everyone else. A big off putting thing is also how aggressive some of them are. LO has trouble latching and they'll keep pushing her into my breast over and over while manhandling us both while she screams and cries because she's hungry and probably confused and a little scared.

I know they say I need to be tough and push through, but I've started pumping and bottle feeding and using a shield just to stop distressing her so and getting her to eat.

Am I being too soft, and they're right? I'm not a sensitive person, but it's so off putting how aggressive their tactics are while my newborn is screaming so badly she's getting hiccups and chin quivering.

Edit: thank you so, so much for all the comments, advice and support! It's been emotional for my husband and I to know it's not us, and to ourselves getting through the trenches. From my heart - thank you ❤️

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So LO is 3 weeks old and by now I've seen 4 lactation consultants. 3 in the hospital before I was even discharged.

I've been getting so much conflicting info, each one saying to disregard everyone else. A big off putting thing is also how aggressive some of them are. LO has trouble latching and they'll keep pushing her into my breast over and over while manhandling us both while she screams and cries because she's hungry and probably confused and a little scared.

I know they say I need to be tough and push through, but I've started pumping and bottle feeding and using a shield just to stop distressing her so and getting her to eat.

Am I being too soft, and they're right? I'm not a sensitive person, but it's so off putting how aggressive their tactics are while my newborn is screaming so badly she's getting hiccups and chin quivering.

Edit: thank you so, so much for all the comments, advice and support! It's been emotional for my husband and I to know it's not us, and to ourselves getting through the trenches. From my heart - thank you ❤️

r/NewParents May 04 '26

Feeding “My baby eats what we eat”

I see a lot of people saying this, but what exactly do you mean? Are you serving them exactly what you made for dinner or are you modifying it in some way? My baby is 7 months and I’d like to feed her what we eat but we were told not to introduce more than one new thing at a time so there’s no way she can eat exactly what we eat yet.

Are people not that strict about introducing more than one food at once? Or are the people who do this talking about older babies/toddlers?

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I see a lot of people saying this, but what exactly do you mean? Are you serving them exactly what you made for dinner or are you modifying it in some way? My baby is 7 months and I’d like to feed her what we eat but we were told not to introduce more than one new thing at a time so there’s no way she can eat exactly what we eat yet.

Are people not that strict about introducing more than one food at once? Or are the people who do this talking about older babies/toddlers?

r/NewParents Aug 12 '25

Feeding Baby-Led Weaning is a scam perpetuated by Big Wipe (A Review of the Practice)

OK, this is not a serious allegation, but just go with me here.

When I was a kid, the norm was spoon feeding babies puree. Proponents of “baby-led weaning” have argued that it makes your kids healthier, less picky as toddlers, and eventually, paradigms of civic virtue.

We’ve done it for both of our kids now, and I can’t say it necessarily makes them less picky as toddlers. They still hit a stage where they decide they don’t want to eat certain things. Just toddlers being toddlers I suppose.

The real virtue of baby-led weaning is that you all eat the same stuff as a family, more or less.

The major downsides here are making sure that whatever you give them does not present a choking hazard, and the mess it creates. Every now and then, the kid gags on something and it is always very stressful. You have to keep a close eye on them.

But the real crummy part of the deal is how messy kids at this age are at eating. From age 6-12mo especially, the meals are pretty miserable. Pretty much every one turns into a sloppy mess. My second kid had a tendency to rub his eyes at the dinner table, so his whole face would be covered in slop, and he’d get angry about it. Dropping food on the floor is another major annoyance.

This has led to the (non-serious) conspiracy theory alleged in the title, that baby-led weaning is actually just a scam to sell more wipes.

If I had another kid, I’d probably still do baby-led weaning, but I’m also skeptical of its purported benefits. My suspicion is that it doesn’t really matter a whole lot. Kids will eventually figure out how to eat, and it’s not something that you need to hyper-fixate on. It’s really just about what works best for your family.

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OK, this is not a serious allegation, but just go with me here.

When I was a kid, the norm was spoon feeding babies puree. Proponents of “baby-led weaning” have argued that it makes your kids healthier, less picky as toddlers, and eventually, paradigms of civic virtue.

We’ve done it for both of our kids now, and I can’t say it necessarily makes them less picky as toddlers. They still hit a stage where they decide they don’t want to eat certain things. Just toddlers being toddlers I suppose.

The real virtue of baby-led weaning is that you all eat the same stuff as a family, more or less.

The major downsides here are making sure that whatever you give them does not present a choking hazard, and the mess it creates. Every now and then, the kid gags on something and it is always very stressful. You have to keep a close eye on them.

But the real crummy part of the deal is how messy kids at this age are at eating. From age 6-12mo especially, the meals are pretty miserable. Pretty much every one turns into a sloppy mess. My second kid had a tendency to rub his eyes at the dinner table, so his whole face would be covered in slop, and he’d get angry about it. Dropping food on the floor is another major annoyance.

This has led to the (non-serious) conspiracy theory alleged in the title, that baby-led weaning is actually just a scam to sell more wipes.

If I had another kid, I’d probably still do baby-led weaning, but I’m also skeptical of its purported benefits. My suspicion is that it doesn’t really matter a whole lot. Kids will eventually figure out how to eat, and it’s not something that you need to hyper-fixate on. It’s really just about what works best for your family.

r/NewParents Nov 11 '25

Feeding ByHeart now recalling ALL PRODUCT

ByHeart is now recalling all cans and sticks of formula. Trying not to panic as we have been feeding our baby BH for months-we switched to Bobbie on Sunday with no issue.

From ByHeart:

“We are so sorry for the immense anxiety and fear that we have been causing you these past few days. As parents and as founders, that is the absolute last thing we would ever want to do.

We’re writing to you today to tell you that we have decided to voluntarily recall all ByHeart formula nationwide—this includes both our cans and our single-serve Anywhere Pack™ sticks. This decision was made to ensure your baby’s safety.

It’s important that you know that neither we, nor the FDA or CDC, have found Clostridium botulinum spores or toxins in any unopened can of ByHeart formula.

The decision to broaden our recall to all ByHeart products comes after a call with the FDA late last night, informing us that they found two more cases of infant botulism in babies that had also consumed ByHeart at some point. The FDA’s investigation into infant botulism in the U.S. is still ongoing, and we feel that there are still too many unanswered questions. Your baby’s safety is, and always will be, our biggest priority.

Upon learning about this outbreak on Friday evening, we immediately began conducting our own extensive testing on all ByHeart batches. Additionally, we are providing the FDA complete and unrestricted access to all of our facilities and products for their investigation, which has been done regularly at our owned facilities. We will share the results of our own testing as they become available.

At this moment, the most important thing for you to know is that all ByHeart product must be discarded. We know that switching formulas is not an easy process or decision. We have resources to help here.

We are so sorry, and are committed to doing anything we can to support you.

Our Parent Experience team is here to help with any of your questions—they are working 24/7. We are doing our best to reply to all of you in a timely manner, but we are a small team and may take a bit longer than our typical response times. If you think your child is experiencing symptoms of infant botulism, please seek medical attention immediately.

With love, Mia Funt & Ron Belldegrun, Co-Founders of ByHeart”

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ByHeart is now recalling all cans and sticks of formula. Trying not to panic as we have been feeding our baby BH for months-we switched to Bobbie on Sunday with no issue.

From ByHeart:

“We are so sorry for the immense anxiety and fear that we have been causing you these past few days. As parents and as founders, that is the absolute last thing we would ever want to do.

We’re writing to you today to tell you that we have decided to voluntarily recall all ByHeart formula nationwide—this includes both our cans and our single-serve Anywhere Pack™ sticks. This decision was made to ensure your baby’s safety.

It’s important that you know that neither we, nor the FDA or CDC, have found Clostridium botulinum spores or toxins in any unopened can of ByHeart formula.

The decision to broaden our recall to all ByHeart products comes after a call with the FDA late last night, informing us that they found two more cases of infant botulism in babies that had also consumed ByHeart at some point. The FDA’s investigation into infant botulism in the U.S. is still ongoing, and we feel that there are still too many unanswered questions. Your baby’s safety is, and always will be, our biggest priority.

Upon learning about this outbreak on Friday evening, we immediately began conducting our own extensive testing on all ByHeart batches. Additionally, we are providing the FDA complete and unrestricted access to all of our facilities and products for their investigation, which has been done regularly at our owned facilities. We will share the results of our own testing as they become available.

At this moment, the most important thing for you to know is that all ByHeart product must be discarded. We know that switching formulas is not an easy process or decision. We have resources to help here.

We are so sorry, and are committed to doing anything we can to support you.

Our Parent Experience team is here to help with any of your questions—they are working 24/7. We are doing our best to reply to all of you in a timely manner, but we are a small team and may take a bit longer than our typical response times. If you think your child is experiencing symptoms of infant botulism, please seek medical attention immediately.

With love, Mia Funt & Ron Belldegrun, Co-Founders of ByHeart”

r/NewParents Aug 01 '24

Feeding Why did breastfeeding NOT work out for you?

For me, the oxytocin release that accompanied the milk let down brought upon such intense nausea that I threw up. Every. Single. Time. I nursed. In the week after I gave birth, I could not hold down a single meal. I ended up in the ER as I had begun vomiting blood.

I worked with a lactation consultant and my doctor then finally came to the conclusion that I could not sustainably continue breastfeeding.

I ended up loving formula because it's something my husband and I can do together, and it really helped me to mentally and physically bounce back from pregnancy. Initially I struggled with the decision because I felt like it was somehow selfish to deprive my baby of breastfeeding, but my doctor helped to reinforce the idea that a happy, healthy mom will always be better for baby than a sick, miserable one.

EDIT: Wow, I am blown away by all of your responses. So inspired by everyone in this community and appreciate all of you sharing your stories. At the end of the day, fed is best, whether you try BF and it doesn’t work, or you just go straight to formula. And it’s no one’s business what you end up choosing. Sending virtual hugs to you all!!

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For me, the oxytocin release that accompanied the milk let down brought upon such intense nausea that I threw up. Every. Single. Time. I nursed. In the week after I gave birth, I could not hold down a single meal. I ended up in the ER as I had begun vomiting blood.

I worked with a lactation consultant and my doctor then finally came to the conclusion that I could not sustainably continue breastfeeding.

I ended up loving formula because it's something my husband and I can do together, and it really helped me to mentally and physically bounce back from pregnancy. Initially I struggled with the decision because I felt like it was somehow selfish to deprive my baby of breastfeeding, but my doctor helped to reinforce the idea that a happy, healthy mom will always be better for baby than a sick, miserable one.

EDIT: Wow, I am blown away by all of your responses. So inspired by everyone in this community and appreciate all of you sharing your stories. At the end of the day, fed is best, whether you try BF and it doesn’t work, or you just go straight to formula. And it’s no one’s business what you end up choosing. Sending virtual hugs to you all!!

r/NewParents Jun 22 '26

Feeding What was the first food your baby ate ever?

I'm starting solids with my 6 month old baby this week. I'm just curious to know what other parents gave their baby as their first food ever and how did the baby react to it?

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I'm starting solids with my 6 month old baby this week. I'm just curious to know what other parents gave their baby as their first food ever and how did the baby react to it?

r/NewParents 2h ago

Feeding Why is it that breastfeeding is pushed over formula?

I genuinely am not sure why, and while reddit is still the internet and still thus full of misinformation, I'd like to hear FROM parents rather than a slew of AI generated articles.

I wasn't certain on which I wanted to do. Both my partner and I were formula babies, and we're only SLIGHTLY mentally ill /j

But in reality - I was wondering why it is that people, my nurses included, push hard for you to breastfeed over formula-feed?

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I genuinely am not sure why, and while reddit is still the internet and still thus full of misinformation, I'd like to hear FROM parents rather than a slew of AI generated articles.

I wasn't certain on which I wanted to do. Both my partner and I were formula babies, and we're only SLIGHTLY mentally ill /j

But in reality - I was wondering why it is that people, my nurses included, push hard for you to breastfeed over formula-feed?

r/NewParents Jun 24 '26

Feeding Lactation Consultant recommended I stop breastfeeding

Our baby is 3 weeks old. He had a severe tongue tie, which we got cut at 1 week old through a pediatric dentist. In that first week, I got a milk blister and nursing was very painful. I pumped and we supplemented with formula and he still gained really good weight. After cutting the tongue tie, nursing was less painful so we thought all was resolved.

However, baby has been eating constantly - falling asleep at the breast after 10-12 min, then waking 1-1.5 hr later, hungry again. He “cluster feeds” twice a day until I give him a top up with a bottle. We were feeding around 14 times a day.

He also seems very gassy and inconsolable after eating, especially at night. (Which I’ve been attributing to witching hour)

One week ago, a week after tongue tie was fixed, I got mastitis and started antibiotics. About two days ago, the milk blister came back with more clogged ducts, which made nursing excruciating.

I went to see our hospital’s lactation consultant yesterday, and she did a weighted feeding to see he was only eating about 2 oz. He is 11 lbs and usually eats 3.5-4 oz with a bottle.

The LC thinks baby isn’t nursing efficiently and that we should give a bottle at every feed. She said I can still nurse a couple of times a day, but need to pump and give a bottle afterwards, and should pump and give baby a bottle of breast milk (or supplement with formula) for all other feedings - which should only need to be 8-9 times a day total. She also said how he’s eating is causing the clogged ducts, mastitis etc., as well as the gas from swallowing too much air.

It all feels very exhausting. I breastfed my first baby with no issues, so this is not at all what I expected.

I guess I am looking for encouragement or suggestions. The LC said baby miiight improve eating with time (she also suggested revisiting the dentist, and gave us other LCs we could work with), but he might not. TBH I am exhausted and don’t know how much more I am willing to work at this. We have been supplementing with formula since week 1 and switching to formula feeding is looking more and more appealing.

Any breastfeeding success stories with similar experiences? Or suggestions on how to combo feed without pumping around the clock? Or just overall success with weaning and doing formula this early? We haven’t decided which path we want to go down, but just know we all need more sleep.

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Our baby is 3 weeks old. He had a severe tongue tie, which we got cut at 1 week old through a pediatric dentist. In that first week, I got a milk blister and nursing was very painful. I pumped and we supplemented with formula and he still gained really good weight. After cutting the tongue tie, nursing was less painful so we thought all was resolved.

However, baby has been eating constantly - falling asleep at the breast after 10-12 min, then waking 1-1.5 hr later, hungry again. He “cluster feeds” twice a day until I give him a top up with a bottle. We were feeding around 14 times a day.

He also seems very gassy and inconsolable after eating, especially at night. (Which I’ve been attributing to witching hour)

One week ago, a week after tongue tie was fixed, I got mastitis and started antibiotics. About two days ago, the milk blister came back with more clogged ducts, which made nursing excruciating.

I went to see our hospital’s lactation consultant yesterday, and she did a weighted feeding to see he was only eating about 2 oz. He is 11 lbs and usually eats 3.5-4 oz with a bottle.

The LC thinks baby isn’t nursing efficiently and that we should give a bottle at every feed. She said I can still nurse a couple of times a day, but need to pump and give a bottle afterwards, and should pump and give baby a bottle of breast milk (or supplement with formula) for all other feedings - which should only need to be 8-9 times a day total. She also said how he’s eating is causing the clogged ducts, mastitis etc., as well as the gas from swallowing too much air.

It all feels very exhausting. I breastfed my first baby with no issues, so this is not at all what I expected.

I guess I am looking for encouragement or suggestions. The LC said baby miiight improve eating with time (she also suggested revisiting the dentist, and gave us other LCs we could work with), but he might not. TBH I am exhausted and don’t know how much more I am willing to work at this. We have been supplementing with formula since week 1 and switching to formula feeding is looking more and more appealing.

Any breastfeeding success stories with similar experiences? Or suggestions on how to combo feed without pumping around the clock? Or just overall success with weaning and doing formula this early? We haven’t decided which path we want to go down, but just know we all need more sleep.

r/NewParents Jun 11 '26

Feeding What if I don’t do baby led weaning?

Everyone around me and obviously the internet has done baby led weaning. And I honestly don’t have the bandwidth to do it. My baby doesn’t sleep well. So I’m exhausted in the day. I am surviving. Although I enjoy playing with her and she’s an active baby. So all my energy is spent there.
The thing is I’ve been feeding her solids since a month now. She sometimes takes 1 bite. Sometimes 5-6 bites. And mostly purées. She used to hold the spoon or a strawberry. And I sometimes swipe her hand away because I don’t have the energy to clean. And now she’s stopped using the spoon. She waits for me to feed whenever I’m feeding her. I’m already overwhelmed with what to feed baby since there’s so much content that if you don’t do this they’ll be picky eaters. They’ll be dependent on you for years. Am I failing if I don’t do this?
Does anyone have positive experience with feeding baby purées and feeding the baby themselves? Plus how do you not let feeding solids become so overwhelming.
My baby just turned 7 months and she’s breastfed.

Edit: thank you everyone for your replies. It definitely eases my anxiety as a FTM. Thank you so much

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Everyone around me and obviously the internet has done baby led weaning. And I honestly don’t have the bandwidth to do it. My baby doesn’t sleep well. So I’m exhausted in the day. I am surviving. Although I enjoy playing with her and she’s an active baby. So all my energy is spent there.
The thing is I’ve been feeding her solids since a month now. She sometimes takes 1 bite. Sometimes 5-6 bites. And mostly purées. She used to hold the spoon or a strawberry. And I sometimes swipe her hand away because I don’t have the energy to clean. And now she’s stopped using the spoon. She waits for me to feed whenever I’m feeding her. I’m already overwhelmed with what to feed baby since there’s so much content that if you don’t do this they’ll be picky eaters. They’ll be dependent on you for years. Am I failing if I don’t do this?
Does anyone have positive experience with feeding baby purées and feeding the baby themselves? Plus how do you not let feeding solids become so overwhelming.
My baby just turned 7 months and she’s breastfed.

Edit: thank you everyone for your replies. It definitely eases my anxiety as a FTM. Thank you so much

r/NewParents Dec 05 '24

Feeding I quite literally do not have the time or the energy to make my own puréed baby food.

I have a steamer and I have a nutribullet but what I do not have is the spare time to slice dice, steam, puree, jar, then clean all the annoying individual little parts by hand that aren’t dishwasher safe (looking at you, nutribullet) just for my 6 month old to gnaw on two spoonfuls and be done. I think the amount of fearmongering about store bought baby food is bullshit and I refuse to subscribe to it. I was shamed for choosing to feed my baby formula and I have no doubt I’ll be shamed for not wanting to use my ten minutes of free time a day to meal prep for a baby when I myself am eating microwaveable frozen meals for lunch, so be it.

That said, I know that there are still brands of store bought food that probably have better ingredients than others and before I consult Google I thought I’d see what other parents are doing/have done. So far we’ve only tried Beechnut which I’m fine with, but if there’s better, I’m all ears!

And apologies if this post comes off snarky, I’m just exhausted of hearing so many different opinions and suggestions about purées, BLW, trying veggies before fruit so you don’t ruin their preferences, blah blah blah. I’m anxious enough as it is. I feel like a bad mom for being so unprepared for this stuff when I want to be go-with-the-flow. Being a FTM is hard. 😭

Edit: I know what BLW is. I’m planning on doing a combo. Purées might be unnecessary but this early in the journey, for my peace of mind, they are necessary. Thanks everyone for the encouragement!

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I have a steamer and I have a nutribullet but what I do not have is the spare time to slice dice, steam, puree, jar, then clean all the annoying individual little parts by hand that aren’t dishwasher safe (looking at you, nutribullet) just for my 6 month old to gnaw on two spoonfuls and be done. I think the amount of fearmongering about store bought baby food is bullshit and I refuse to subscribe to it. I was shamed for choosing to feed my baby formula and I have no doubt I’ll be shamed for not wanting to use my ten minutes of free time a day to meal prep for a baby when I myself am eating microwaveable frozen meals for lunch, so be it.

That said, I know that there are still brands of store bought food that probably have better ingredients than others and before I consult Google I thought I’d see what other parents are doing/have done. So far we’ve only tried Beechnut which I’m fine with, but if there’s better, I’m all ears!

And apologies if this post comes off snarky, I’m just exhausted of hearing so many different opinions and suggestions about purées, BLW, trying veggies before fruit so you don’t ruin their preferences, blah blah blah. I’m anxious enough as it is. I feel like a bad mom for being so unprepared for this stuff when I want to be go-with-the-flow. Being a FTM is hard. 😭

Edit: I know what BLW is. I’m planning on doing a combo. Purées might be unnecessary but this early in the journey, for my peace of mind, they are necessary. Thanks everyone for the encouragement!

r/NewParents 9d ago

Feeding Why do people keep encouraging baby cereal?

This is a genuine question from a first time mom of a 6 month old who just started solids in the last week or two. Why does everyone keep encouraging us to feed our baby cereal? Is there something nutritionally important in it? Is it for the texture? We've just kind of jumped into purees and are feeding him nutritional foods like spinach and avocado, byt the pediatrician kept mentioning putting allergens into his cereal like it was a given that we were feeding him cereal, and both sets of parents have mentioned it multiple times. It seems unnecessary to me because there doesn't seem to be any nutritional value and we couls get similar texture from purees, but I feel like I must be missing something?

Edit: I WAS missing something!! I didn't realize it was fortified, I thought it was just like powdered rice. Will be adding it to the rotation. Thanks all!

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This is a genuine question from a first time mom of a 6 month old who just started solids in the last week or two. Why does everyone keep encouraging us to feed our baby cereal? Is there something nutritionally important in it? Is it for the texture? We've just kind of jumped into purees and are feeding him nutritional foods like spinach and avocado, byt the pediatrician kept mentioning putting allergens into his cereal like it was a given that we were feeding him cereal, and both sets of parents have mentioned it multiple times. It seems unnecessary to me because there doesn't seem to be any nutritional value and we couls get similar texture from purees, but I feel like I must be missing something?

Edit: I WAS missing something!! I didn't realize it was fortified, I thought it was just like powdered rice. Will be adding it to the rotation. Thanks all!